I see the statistic. It maybe how I worded my statement, but I have not blinded my self from reality, I know there are shit fathers, I had one. but I have also seen many amazing ones who were quite the role model.
keep in mind on my original statement not once did I say "most father." I said "A father".
but the difference between you and me is I don't focus on the negatives.
I can care less if most are shit fathers, all I know is great ones exist, and by mostly focusing on the positive aspect of this, I have but only one thing to aspire from.
I hope you find a loving husband and father Ellenna. I really do.
And doesn't the phrase "a father" imply that most or all fathers fit this idealised unrealistic image? If you'd said "the ideal father" you would have been acknowledging the reality.
I am not "focussing on the negative" I am pointing out reality: society will never change for the better if the truth isn't acknowledged.
Bit late in life for me to find either of those, I'm afraid
Thanks for this. I did a more in depth analysis on this issue.
In America, only 35% about 24million of children are in a single parent home. And they are mostly mothers. That means 65% are living with two parent. So majority are most likely not shit fathers.
In Canada, where I live, 78 per cent of kids lived with two parents, 20 per cent lived in a single-parent home and one per cent lived with no parents.
But in the grand scheme of things, Asia, which is where most of our population is,(4.4billion) and middle east, have a predominant two parent home.
with that said, you're wrong, you talk like you know the "truth". But have been blinded by your own experiences, and have probably blinded a whole lot more people.
It is not often Fathers are Absent or abusive.
You are in fact a negative person, with a narrow point of view. You are also throwing in the towel to your love life. that also helps my judgment.
my 70+ year old grandfather still try's to find love even after the passing of my grandmother years ago. my 45+mother still and almost there to finding love. They have not given up like you have.
Ellenna get off that dark fantasy of yours before you blind more people with your "truth".
It's fine that we're disgreeing, but I don't see the need for your totally baseless and insulting assumptions about me. I'm not negative, I don't have a narrow point of view, I haven't thrown in the towel on my love life, I haven't given up, I'm not in a dark fantasy and I'm not blinding anyone.
If your assumptions about me aren't baseless, what are they based on? I'm not hurt, I'm pissed off and I don't know where you got the idea I was giving up on anything "a while ago" - just what are you talking about?
If you describe me inaccurately then how else can I take it but personally?
IIN that I like Daddy/daughter role play?
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I see the statistic. It maybe how I worded my statement, but I have not blinded my self from reality, I know there are shit fathers, I had one. but I have also seen many amazing ones who were quite the role model.
keep in mind on my original statement not once did I say "most father." I said "A father".
but the difference between you and me is I don't focus on the negatives.
I can care less if most are shit fathers, all I know is great ones exist, and by mostly focusing on the positive aspect of this, I have but only one thing to aspire from.
I hope you find a loving husband and father Ellenna. I really do.
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And doesn't the phrase "a father" imply that most or all fathers fit this idealised unrealistic image? If you'd said "the ideal father" you would have been acknowledging the reality.
I am not "focussing on the negative" I am pointing out reality: society will never change for the better if the truth isn't acknowledged.
Bit late in life for me to find either of those, I'm afraid
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Thanks for this. I did a more in depth analysis on this issue.
In America, only 35% about 24million of children are in a single parent home. And they are mostly mothers. That means 65% are living with two parent. So majority are most likely not shit fathers.
In Canada, where I live, 78 per cent of kids lived with two parents, 20 per cent lived in a single-parent home and one per cent lived with no parents.
But in the grand scheme of things, Asia, which is where most of our population is,(4.4billion) and middle east, have a predominant two parent home.
with that said, you're wrong, you talk like you know the "truth". But have been blinded by your own experiences, and have probably blinded a whole lot more people.
It is not often Fathers are Absent or abusive.
You are in fact a negative person, with a narrow point of view. You are also throwing in the towel to your love life. that also helps my judgment.
my 70+ year old grandfather still try's to find love even after the passing of my grandmother years ago. my 45+mother still and almost there to finding love. They have not given up like you have.
Ellenna get off that dark fantasy of yours before you blind more people with your "truth".
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It's fine that we're disgreeing, but I don't see the need for your totally baseless and insulting assumptions about me. I'm not negative, I don't have a narrow point of view, I haven't thrown in the towel on my love life, I haven't given up, I'm not in a dark fantasy and I'm not blinding anyone.
You don't know me and you know nothing about me.
Happy New Year to you and yours
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sorry if I came off too hostile. I truly didn't mean to insult you so harshly if I did.
But my assumptions were not "totally baseless".
When I call someone negative, I do not say it to intentionally hurt someone.
I am glad you are not giving up, it sounded like you were a while ago.
So if I insulted you, it is not my intention. So I hope you don't take it personally as I am but a stranger.
have a late Merry Christmas also. <3
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If your assumptions about me aren't baseless, what are they based on? I'm not hurt, I'm pissed off and I don't know where you got the idea I was giving up on anything "a while ago" - just what are you talking about?
If you describe me inaccurately then how else can I take it but personally?
Don't do xmas, but happy new year to you