Is it normal that i have given up on having a relationship at a young age?

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As a young man at 20 years old I noticed I completely dismiss any possibility of me getting into a relationship.

I haven't had a girlfriend yet and I also know no girls atm. Sure, I came across them in school, but I couldn't really talk to any of them.
Now, I'm also really quiet in general, but I do make some casual friends, not people I'd ask to do me a huge favor, but at least people I can small talk with. All of these people tend to be guys though.

is it normal that I can't even imagine myself ever having a girlfriend, and to top it off, that I seem to even have accepted it? I'm not depressed over it, I've never thought "I wish I had a girlfriend".

I don't even feel like I should/could change myself, though I doubt this is normal, so that's how I found this site, do you all think this is normal?

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  • vchen87
    13 years ago | pl

    I used to be the same. I have aspergers syndrome and if you know anything about that you'll know it's hard for people for me to socialise. I were off the idea of me ever having a girlfriend and got on with my life. It wasn't until I was 23 I met someone with whom I clicked and we are going on7 months now and our relationship is awesome. My point is, its good you army getting hung up on it. Just live life an when you least expect it, you'll find someone. You don't go looking Love/relationships , it kind of comes to you.

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  • randomPerson9929
    13 years ago | pl

    @Vchen87
    That puts my problem a bit into perspective I guess, I don't have any 'valid' reason to be like I am. Good to hear it worked out for you in the end :)

    @Honkona
    Haha, thx for sharing, I feel the same, nice to know there are others ^^

    @everyone who said 'if you're happy':
    Well, I don't know. I would never call myself a happy outgoing person. I also can't imagine wearing things more colorful than black or dark blue '^^
    But I'm not depressed or anything, life's just really bland (probably my own fault too).
    I'm sort of hoping things get more interesting once I finish college, but on the other hand, we have the fact that I'm a young person who thinks his college years are boring '^^, so it's likely going to get even worse.

    So far I'm 58% normal, that sounds about how I'd describe myself :p

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  • windowlicker
    13 years ago | pl

    If you're happy that way, then don't sweat it. There's so much more in life than having a girlfriend

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  • Honkona
    13 years ago | pl

    MY GOD.
    I feel like this to, it's nice to know I'm not the only one.

    I am only 17 years old and I am a girl.
    I might like a guy or find him attractive but I don't think I'll ever have one and I don't I want one either.

    But then again it might be because I am a bit of an introvert.
    Or because I don't think anybody has ever been in love their whole time being in a relationship.

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  • harrypotterdork22
    13 years ago | pl

    you shouldnt give up. and love happens ny coincidence. dont like meet a girl and be like "okay im gonna like her and make her be my gf". just enjoy youre life the way it is. you might not need a partner to be happy. but be open

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  • kellstar
    13 years ago | pl

    Not everyone needs a significant other.
    Although it's good sometimes to go to dinner with/ hang out with or go to the movies with a girlfriend/ boyfriend there is alot of drawbacks to it also.
    If your happy single then enjoy it. Plenty of time later for lovers/ marriage/ kids.
    Not sure if it's normal but if your happy with it then it's normal for 'you'

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