Is it normal that i hate it when sahms compare themselves to single moms?

I hadn't thought about it before, so thank you for sharing your point of view. I can see why that would really bother you.

To me, it seems like one of three things might be happening: (a) they don't care about the fact that being a single mom is much harder than being a stay at home mom, (b) they have no concept of what's involved with being a single mom and don't care enough to find out, or (c) they know perfectly well that being a single mom is hard and are therefore using it for hyperbole, like that's the worst thing they can think of.

In any of those cases, it's a shitty thing to say. (a) and (b) are invalidating, because they trivialise the amount of work you do as a single mom. (c) is insulting because it makes it sound like your life is the worst thing that can happen to somebody, which is ridiculous.

Do people you know say this? Do they say it in front of you? You could probably come up with ways to respond that let them know it bothers you without starting a fight.

Single asshole moms?

Hell yeah it's normal to be upset about that! You should have slapped some sense into that single asshole mom. Lol.

Seriously though, 72 hours a week? How did you even have time to type this? O_o

You don't know their challenges, either. One kid could be autistic. Another could have health problems. The husband could be distant, neglectful, or even abusive. Sorry about your situation but get over yourself.

Rent a dad is the solution to single moms. I'll do the work, as rent a dad, just hire me and I'll cook and clean for a little bit, then quench your sexual needs

SAHMs can be pretty selfish and self-centered, and it was wrong of your SAHM friends to consider themselves single moms because of the amount of time their hubbies spend working. The reason for that is that these women are selfish and can't stop spending money, which means their hubbies have to work hard to support their conspicuously-consuming lifestyles.

If they want to know what hard is, they should walk a mile in your shoes. If their kids are in school, they should be out there during school hours either working or doing something constructive, like volunteer work, instead of maxing out their husbands' credit cards at the mall. They can't compare themselves to you; it's unfair and inaccurate.

By the way, it sounds to me that you're doing a great job on your own! I'll say a prayer for you that things get better.

What you're doing is admirable. But,,,,

You're letting yourself down by expecting other people to understand you,,, especially stay-at-home moms. They actually DO have a problem you don't,,, they're bored. Bored people, not all but most, will dwell on the few real problems they do have then exaggerate them out of all proportion cuz they don't know how to better fill their time.

You need to be congratulating yourself for doing the best you can to deal with your VERY REAL problems. Then, (gently) berate yourself for adding a problem that isn't necessary. You don't need their understanding and seeking it is futile cuz they won't see beyond their own problems,, real or imagined.

Ultimately, the only person who can make you feel bad is YOU, by worrying about shit you can't alter. Accept that and you'll be happier.

You poor thing! I feel your pain. So much in fact its scary. I've been an actual single mom now for almost three years myself. Like you I have three kids and a dead beat ex that left me for another "woman," if you could call her that when I was eight months pregnant with our third. I couldn't track that basterd down if he had a gps device stuck in his ass! Slippery little f*ck! I've worked countless hours and sacrificed many more of sleep to ensure my responsibilties were met and dealt with. Like you I get no support from him financially and on top of all of that I go to college too. (I'm trying to better our lives for my babies.) My homework, the kids homework, work work- its a load! But you really are the better person for it. I admire and respect you and your kids will too. All of those stay at home moms think they know, but they don't really know- you know? So hats off to you Mama! Keep on keeping on! :)

Yes honey (lol the honey again! I am only 12 so if you think I am just gonna talk a pile of shit then.. Fine!) but yeah its totally normal!!!! something has to irritate someone and in your case it's ppl comparing their relationships and home lives! That's absolutely normal and fine!! :) maybe you should try saying (but not being too edgy or making it obvious in front of your friends) how you feel about it! Don't say "well I kinda disagree with you coz its really hard so... :S" and get caught up in ur words. If ur in a conversation, try to head it towards home life and relationships, then be the first to comment about how you feel!! Something like this *the convo is headed towards home life and relationships and at the right time you say...* .. "its really hard being a single mother :( I have to work these hard shifts blah blah blah and blah blah blah and.." and basically just carry on from there telling them wat you told us! :) : that he is court ordered to pay child support but he doesn't, he moves frequently without notifying you or court, you work 72 hours per week for ur children and urself and you get very little help from state and family(dont say friends!!!), you have to get off 12 hour shifts and come home to 2 hours of helping kids with work, cooking, cleaning and generally be a parent etc. And have not slept for a day!!! And you only get 5 hours sleep every OTHER night, and yeah see where it takes you and make sure you stress the fact that ur exhausted and all. Just go with the flow babeh B) lol good luck and I hope I helped!!!!! :) byee xx <3

You're NOT a "single mom," you're a "divorced mother of 3." A "single mom" is a woman who gets pregnant out of wedlock and sometimes has to go on the Maury Povitch Show to figure how who fathered her bastard spawn. Single mothers usually live in the ghetto of some white trash trailer park and they're all on welfare or some other form of public assistance because the fathers of their offspring (provided they're able to find out who the fathers are) are either in prison or have fathered so many other children they don't have the money to pay child support. Society doesn't look down on widowed or divorced mothers the way it does "single moms." Single moms are the bane of society. Their sons are a bunch of out-of-control criminals and their daughters get knocked up as soon as they reach puberty.