Is it normal that..i go out, and often think..i'm better than this?

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Almost every time I go to one or two of the local, near to my house bars, I sit, interact with usually hot bartenders and staff, and other patrons. Often, I look around, and think..I'm better than this, what the hell am I doing here?

Tonight was a prime example. Stopped at, admittedly not the highest-end place sports bar, as it's close to home and fairly inexpensive. Knew both bartenders well, and one sever girls (for years, and personally), which was fine, but, looking around, all I mostly saw were neck beard guys, dudes with their hat backwards, aging biker guys and their aging biker women, a guy with an awful mullet, and other women who just looked like life beat them down and they gave up. And the loud conversations between long-ago by now high school athletes, talking about last night's hs game, was just nine kinds of sad to me. Like these two guys never mentally got out of high school.

I go out for socialization and to get out of the house, as I work from home and am home quite a bit. Even I need more people interaction than my usual place on a Friday night. But damn, to look at other patrons and hear the conversations makes me think..I HAVE to be better than this..Where are the professional, better people like me? Or the women who hung up their biker vests 20 years ago and are now dressing more age-appropriately? Didn't anyone tell mullet guy that that look is ridiculous?

is it normal that, even though I have cut back..That I still go to these places when I know what's in there?

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  • TheOishome
    5 years ago

    The biker woman who didn't hang her coat up 20 years ago? Probably has a great loving relationship with her fellow biker husband. The guys bonding over a common interest? (The game) are good friends who made a connection in school and like each other. The dude sitting in his shirt and tie alone on a bar stool judging all these people, well he thinks he's better than them. Just shows how arrogant some people are. Sort out what makes you happy, follow that; if it takes you to a cheap sports bar with easy going people then sit back with a beer and listen to the conversation.
    If it takes you to intense athletic competition or travel or exploring drugs, working with less fortunate or typing in numbers at a computer desk and getting wealthy do that, the people who do that are the doing it right, the people who judge people for being themselves are less so goodluck on your journey man and next time look in a mirror before looking around you. You might see who really needs to change.

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    • Mehereok1
      5 years ago

      In no particular order..I wasn't, and haven't been in years, in a shirt and tie at the bar; I was in my everyday jeans and t-shirt. As for the rest, two guys bonding over a common interest, fine. But reliving your high school football days through the kids playing today, to me, is pathetic. These guys never mentally got out of high school, and it's sad.

      The aging biker women, married or not (that wasn't the point), look like skanks and trying desperately to hang onto whatever shred of decent looks they may have had back in the 80s. It's not a good look, for a bar or in public.

      It's not arrogance, either. It's wanting to be around more age and situation-appropriate people. I don't see a problem with that. And did admit to stopping on my own choice, knowing in general, the kind of place it is. Having it busy and packed was a real eye-opener, since almost everyone in there was as I described. And a few are people I interact with (which is another point-maker to me). Guys who end every sentence with "Know what I'm talking bout, bro?", and women so damaged they do shot after shot, fast.

      In short, yes..I AM better than that, and plan on staying out of there and places like it from here on in, no matter how close to home and cheap it is. I'll gladly pay a little more to be around those I want to be around.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    5 years ago

    sing us a song youre the piano man

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    • Mehereok1
      5 years ago

      That would be preferable..

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  • kelili
    5 years ago

    Maybe you're a little bit conceited. Why would you think that you are better than these people?

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    • Mehereok1
      5 years ago

      It's not conceited. It's a feeling of "do better", and, you are who you hang around. I've been in that place enough, again mostly b/c it's close and inexpensive, and I know a few tenders there, to realize..This is not who I am, I need to do better.

      A lot of things stuck out to me, but, mullet guy and the 40+ old high school football fanatics essentially reliving their glory days really hit me with that message. Damn, mullet guy has to lose that thing (and the slicked-back hair), and these two guys haven't mentally grown since their halcyon gridiron days 30 years ago. Across from me, we had bandana on the head guy, and next to him, the no-makeupped, pale, grungy looking woman who just looked beaten down by life, going outside for smoke breaks every five minutes and holding the pack in her hand so tightly at the bar you'd think she crushed the smokes and lighter.

      Am I perfect? Hell, no. But damn..I have to be better than this.

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      • kelili
        5 years ago

        Why are you so quick to judge those people? You don't live with them 24/7. have you tried to get into a conversation with them or are you judging them based on their apperance?

        What you need is to work on yourself because I feel that the problem is you not fitting it and convincing yourself that it's because you're too good.

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        • Mehereok1
          5 years ago

          As I stated, I have had conversations with many of these people, including the "Know what I'm saying, bro?" guys, and, yes, the men and women who are so into high school football, this kid from wherever, etc, that I have an educated view. It's certainly not that I don't feel good enough about myself; My choices sometimes, yes. I know better, but again, this place is close by and inexpensive.

          I've also overheard too many conversations, and determined, these are not my people.

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