Is it normal that i get turned on by the thought of getting choked, drugged etc

I get turned on by the thought of a man desiring me so much that he drugs me when I'm not aware so that I get completely helpless and that he starts choking me and touching me without me being able to stop him. I don't like the idea of being r*ped but I like the idea of being helpless and desired.

I also get turned on by the idea of a man slapping me when I don't expect it and that I genuinely get hurt and shocked. I know that it would hurt and that I would cry, but I get turned on by the thought that a man would feel that powerful and turned on by seeing me so hopeless.

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Based on 53 votes (32 yes)
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  • Ellenna

    Fantasies of sexually dominating or being dominated are very common but obviously putting fantasies like yours into practice would be very dangerous.

    Be very VERY careful of acting out these fantasies in real life unless you're in a relationship which is based on trust and good communication.

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    • RoseIsabella

      ... and a safe word.

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      • Ellenna

        Thanks, I forgot that important point

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        • RoseIsabella

          You're very welcome, and I appreciate your response on this matter. 🙂

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  • barefoot_on_the_sand

    Rape is not ok.

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    • I agree!

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  • mrnonody

    I think I m fantasying about you now

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    • Same.

      This has opened my mind, I always thought I was non-rapist with rapist thoughts and was just a weirdo but now I see it's a fetish!

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  • curious-bunny

    I understand, I have many such desires, however i do want to get raped someday, yes I know it would be horrible but it doesn't stop the fact that it turns me on. Getting chocked is amazibg, especially when you add getting slammed agaisntf the wall qndx such. It feels great

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    • Alwayzintrigued

      I knew a woman that was into BDSM and the rougher you were the harder she came.

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      • curious-bunny

        Yea sounds like me haha, one of the best orgasms of my life was I was getting fingered, he chocked me alot riding cropped me and spanked me allooot that night, I came so hard fron his fingers. Like oh my gawd.
        I also cried 3 times that night, first time cause he hit my genitals really hard by accident after that the dam was broken I cried twice more. It was amazing. Would do it again in a heart beat!

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        • Alwayzintrigued

          Sounds amazing.

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          • curious-bunny

            It was wonderful, I wish he had a tazer to use on me but alas we don't

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  • SKDM007

    go to a dark alleyway and your wishes will come true, i mean probably only once then its 6 feet underground for you!

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  • TheBlindInquisitor

    Are you a man or woman? Either way it's not bad to have fantasies.

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    • Oh, I’m sorry! I’m a woman (im 19 btw) :)

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      • We were made for eachother ;)

        I now don't feel like a bad person, because somewhere out there is a girl made for me.

        I'd seize the moment when you're drunk, you say no to anal, I push you down and fuck you anyway, whilst choking you, then you start to masturbate and get used to it, HARD as fuck just thinking about it.

        Or like curious-bunny said, against a wall, despite your discomfort you're forced to like it anyway.

        Or scratching my back will just make me speed up, or each yelp.

        Not a rape condoner either but for some reason I get seriously turned on by it, I actually posted a question about is it normal to get turned by forceful sex just an hour ago.

        By the way, I'm 21.

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        • Wow, I would love to be slammed into the wall by you. I’m not into anal, but if I got forced into something I don’t like then I get turned on anyway. The forcing makes me turned on.

          I know that I would be uncomfortable and dislike it, but the fact that I dislike it makes me enjoy it if you know what I mean. Lol

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    I'm guessing you've never been in an abusive relationship before? Most people I've talked to that wanted a controlling boyfriend or a yandere girlfriend were miserable once they actually got what they wanted.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Amen to that!

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  • Mister_Merlin

    it's not normal but it is relatively common among submissive personalities.

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  • palehorse

    Voted not normal because I can't relate, but honestly, you do you! Obviously, this wouldn't be a great thing IRL, but as a fantasy / roleplay thing it's healthy and fairly common - try connecting to a local BDSM community. Have fun :)

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  • Unknown_player

    Theres a whole community of people online that like being choked sexually. You could get in touch with them,& make friends. To me this is for the most part normal. Except for the being drugged part.

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  • cipro

    Its normal.

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  • Normal

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  • bigbudchonga

    If you're a woman then this is normal

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  • RoseIsabella

    I don't think it's healthy. I feel like someone would have to have low self esteem, or be desperately needy to have such fantasies. See a therapist and ask her what she thinks.

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    • I'm not desperately needy, low self esteem maybe... Googled it, yeah I have low self esteem, although I am a sex addict, if I had it my way we'd fuck twice a day.

      I'm actually considered attractive, slim.

      I don't condone rape and I think it must be horrible to experience it, but consensual-rape, with choking, forced anal while you masturbate that gets me hard in seconds.

      I'm the complete opposite to how you would expect, I think.

      I'm actually one of the kind and thoughtful people, but I switch when I'm turned on.

      It doesn't feel healthy when I'm finished, but damn if I had a girl who was into it as much as I am I'd feel normal, I feel normal after reading this.

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      • RoseIsabella

        You're not the OP.

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      • RoseIsabella

        There's no such thing as as consensual-rape. What you are describing is considered role play. I actually used to know a person in real life who was in to BDSM, and that individual told me it was called a scene. Also people involved in BDSM use something called a safe word. A responsible Dom should be able to stop if the sub says the safe word. Could you stop on a dime if necessary?

        It's a fine line between people role playing out a scene, and actual rape, and sodomy. The point at which it becomes too much for the submissive person if you you cannot stop on a dime when that person says the safe word is the point at which it actually becomes a real rape.

        I don't support, or condone BDSM, but you really shouldn't become a dom unless you have been a sub first. Also the people I've met who are really into BDSM have told me that it's a big responsibility to be a dom.

        Anyway, I'm just rambling, because you seem more like a person who just has a rape fantasy than someone interested in the BDSM lifestyle. All of this is very dangerous, because the moment at which it becomes too much it would become real rape if you couldn't stop.

        This is dangerous territory for both parties, and I never feel sorry for accused rapists. If you can't stop on a dime you shouldn't even be thinking about any of it.

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    • palehorse

      This is actually a pretty common fetish, and perfectly healthy when realized through in consensual roleplay.

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      • RoseIsabella

        I wonder why it's so common?

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        • palehorse

          Dominance / submission fantasies, and being into the idea of weakness / vulnerability. "Why" is hard to answer... but it's definitely a thing, I guess.

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          • RoseIsabella

            I don't relate to it.

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            • palehorse

              That's cool, you do you.

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