Is it normal that..i gave money to a friend in need, but..

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Is it normal that I loaned (gave, as I know I'll never see it again) a female friend money she needed last night, yet, she kept asking for more, like a negotiation, that I felt like saying fk you, now I'm giving you nothing? I went from nice, helpful guy to feeling taken advantage of, or at least attempted to be by her, within about five minutes.

Even as I took the money out of the cash machine, I thought "Screw her, let her get it some other way", with a hint of aggravation. I like her, we're friends, and hanging with her is fun, but I seem to think she wanted to meet last night much more to ask for money than to just hang and have a few drinks. Which, I also paid for. Now, the hard part..The bad part of me wants either my cash back when she gets paid, or..A hotel room with her so I can have the hell at her body to get equal to what she owes me. Is any of this normal?

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    If she asked for more, I can see that as being rude. You seem way too angry, though. It's not normal to want to "have the hell at her body," that's for sure.

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    • Justmehere
      6 years ago

      Not angry at all. As stated above, the thought-only of having at her body occurred. Didn't follow through or bring it up to her. And yes, I'd certainly like to get paid back, but honestly know it's a longshot at best. I'd even take half if she offered. Just a token of appreciation.

      Similarly, I've, too often, given money to another long-time female friend, knowing full well it would never return. In her case, with myself and other guys, she does use people. I mostly only hear from her when she wants or needs something. At least with the friend this week, she does work and will probably pay me something back at some point (when is another question). And I didn't give her nearly as much as the long-time, guy-user friend. Not even close.

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    So let's get this right, you lent a female some money & you want the cash back or you want to have sex with her in lieu?

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    • Justmehere
      6 years ago

      Not necessarily. Only that it went through my mind as she kept asking for more, like negotiating. I was fine with giving her what I did, but the more she asked "Can you do.." increasing the amount, I started to think..No way I'm getting any of it back, so, maybe, as they say..Take it out in trade?

      I was really put off by the asking and asking for more, and predicted it as she told me her need and why. Should she not have just been happy with, one, my agreeing to give her anything, and two, the more than decent amount that I did? Where's the appreciation?

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      • e51pegasi
        6 years ago

        To me, she was a cheeky fucker first of all borrowing the money without telling you how & when you are going to get it back. And then asking for even more is absolutely priceless.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    6 years ago

    Well this was normal until the last sentence, tbh it's messed up that you think of a "friend" in that way, "have the hell at her body" sounds like you're going to violently rape her.

    That aside if giving someone money is such a big issue for you then I don't see why you agreed in the first place - I'd have told her to fuck off.

    But basically, her begging you for increasing sums of money- not normal, you not wanting to give it and wanting the money back pronto - normal, the whole having a hell at your friends body thing- not normal.

    There's my 2 cents.

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  • Kevinevan
    6 years ago

    Why are you being so obscure. What did she need the fucking money for. How can we say if its normal when you only give us half the story.

    You should have made her fuck you for it in the first place. She most likely would have. Asking for a piece of ass now is fucked up.

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    • Justmehere
      6 years ago

      I know why she needs the money. She told me, in full detail. Just didn't want to post it here. It's a valid reason, and she's going to improve her situation. And I already said, the thought-only of fucking her for the money went through my mind, I had no intention of asking or telling her that's the payment. Give her time to pay me the cash back.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        So she needs the money for an abortion?

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        • Kevinevan
          6 years ago

          New tits.

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          • RoseIsabella
            6 years ago

            Liposuction?

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    she should have sucked your dick again , either you dropped the ball or she did . wonder what she is up to? eating for free again i guess . fuck that shit. Let some guy take me out for a 50 steak dinner and i will suck his cock. well maybe before the dinner. no point in getting over stuffed .

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    Saw her again last night. Hair down, bit of makeup, nails done (which she made a point of showing and using on me). Looked hot and gorgeous. Talked about her situation, and, I thought..She's going to hit me up for cash again. But, she didn't. I did pay our food and bar bill, but, was going to anyway. No mention of paying me back when she gets paid next week, so, I let it go.

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  • bimbobamboo
    6 years ago

    lol "fuck u with the man up statement" :)

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  • Lisakimmie
    6 years ago

    It's normal to want the cash back, but before you start sexualising her just think maybe she NEEDS that money but is embarrased to say why. Maybe she knows what she's doing to get money out of you slyly so either way you need to man up

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    • Justmehere
      6 years ago

      Fuck you with the "man up" statement. She came to me because I AM a man..Reliable, solid, and compassionate to her situation. I do know why she needs it, and will not say so here. It's a valid reason, to be sure. And I wanted to help her, just not to the increasingly higher degree she kept asking for. Still did well by her.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    make the bitch suck your dick for the money

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    • Justmehere
      6 years ago

      Funny you mention making her suck my dick for the money. Was home last night, got text to meet up for a drink (two nights in a row), and hung out with her. She works late, so didn't meet until after 10:30pm, but, when she showed up, I could tell..She did herself up after work..Long, low back length hair down (which I was running my hands through the night before), opened her work uniform to expose a low-cut tank top and deep cleavage, bit of makeup, and re-did her nails a sexy, dark black color. She looked fkn hot.

      We had a few drinks and good night, little physical, and I'm paying the bill with cash. She looked in my wallet as I paid, and gave me the story of feeding her kid, etc. I semi-joked "Guilt trip, huh?" so I'd give her some cash I had. Went back and forth a minute or two, as I wanted to see if she was just using me for money with no intention of showing appreciation.

      We leave, go to my car first, and she grabs my crotch, sinking her nails in, saying "Since I don't know when I'll pay you back the money..Let me do..This for you". I got the message. Into my car, and she sucked me off a good 20 minutes (parking lot there isn't well-lit, and was practically empty anyway) until I exploded. Was well worth the stupid $40 I'd given her before we left.

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