Is it normal that i feel that i may want to wait to have sex til after marriage

Go you!!!!

I'm married and my husband wasn't my first and I wish he was. In today's society, people who wait until marriage are seen as losers, but I think people who have lots of sex are losers. The more people a person has been with, the more baggage they have, especially with girls.

I feel the same.because of this am scared to enter a relationship.

That's good.
Stay a virgin, and carefully select your woman. If she too is virgin, it's gonna be soo wonderful. The feeling that ur lady has seen no man before you when she could. It's even adventurous to learn it together. She would love to know that she's the one teaching u the fun of sex. One thing...don't marry for sex.

my wife and i waited until marriage. Honestly, we wish we would have done it earlier but it's a good feeling knowing that she is my only one and vice versa. Have sex when you and you alone are ready, not because of a rule or another person.

i think its cool to wait to have sex after marriage
its saving the best for ur partner

You can wait.. It's perfectly fine. :)

That's great

im in college too -___-

ive never done any of thoes yet either(am in college )

Goodjob bud. Do it with somebody who you know will be forever. Why give it to some person who will just walk out your life. You could end up regretting it.

are you from India?? coz i am and our culture teaches us that. i feel the same way

Waaay too much thinking people. Sex is one of the most wonderful things a human can do, and at the same time one of the most mundane. And just like anything else, the more you do it the more you learn and the better you get at it. Virgins are lousy lays. Porn stars are great ones. That's a fact. Somewhere there is a middle ground. Let's say more than 10 but less than 100. If you want to stay a virgin, fine. But it's just like cooking--Sex with an experienced person is a gourmet meal, sex with a virgin is a cold pop-tart.

Well... I guess! But, what if you marry a woman that's bad in bed...? Then you are screwed!

I don't mind if you wait but call me as soon as your married so we don't waste any more time

Try before you buy? So a woman is a piece of meat? Yeople who 'try before they buy' are the reason for a 50% devorce rate. You are just uncertain that your spouce won't leave you when she notices your dong is shorter than your nose and leaves you.

Do what you feel is right and stop depending on others to dictate how you should be. :) I personally don't believe in the waiting til marriage bit, because I believe comfort and compatibility in the physical aspect of a relationship play a huge role in the long term success. I don't feel insecure that I am not the only lover my partner has had because I know she chose me. If you can't be secure in yourself and what you and a partner have physically then you have nothing. So I find it a bit unsettling when people find gratification on the fact that the person they marry has never had anyone else. Seems like insecurity, fear of not measuring up. But to each us their own. Whatever makes you happy...do it.

it's entirely up to u man. waiting is good and bad just like not waiting. live life, have fun, love and laugh. don't worry about what hasn't happened yet, plan for the worst, hope for the best, and remember you'll never know what tomorrow brings. all cliches sure but all proven true my hard won experience so apply what seems best to and please remember that there is no such thing as normal and we're all just tryin to figure "it" out as best we ca .

I have those same feelings. Pretty much toward everything, people think i'm straightedge {bleh} but really, I'm just not sure if I should "soil" on my "purity" or just not care. I mean, I've never dyed my hair, I've never had a piercing of any kind, no tattoos, don't smoke, don't drink, goin' to college, and I'm still a virgin. (pretty much to everything) To me I almost see it as savin' up money. Do you spend it all now? or keep savin' up because the point is to save up for something....right?

What a waste

That's fine, if it's what you really want to do. I wouldn't recommend it, though, because issues of sexual compatibility could potentially destroy your marriage all together. I think it's better to learn what you like and who you are as a sexual being so that you can find a partner whose own sexual desires will match up with you.