Is it normal that i feel like mediocrity is going to be my destiny from now on?

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I hope this doesn't come up as too teenagerish... but I am 18 years old, and I feel like my life is over. I recently graduated from high school as a regular student, not outstanding nor terrible. I tried a few sports and hobbies through my life as well, but I was never good enough at anything.

The thing is that this is a turning point in my life... but I am not good enough at anything to ever achieve something awesome or exceptional. I don't come from a rich family either, so I don't think that I will ever be able to have an spectacular life.

At this point I just know that the best I can achieve for, is a conventional life. Going to college, get a job, get married, have kids, make a few trips here and then (nothing too expensive), and then just get old and die. I know that many would love to have at least this... But I don't know, I just had greater expectations for my life. I guess that being a dreamer and unskilled is a terrible combination.

And I don't know... this mediocrity that is floating over my head is just too overwhelming. I don't even feel sad about this... I just feel totally resigned.

So well, I just wanted to know if anyone has ever felt the same. Is it normal to have something similar to a midlife crisis... at your 20s?

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  • dirtybirdy
    9 years ago | pl

    Oh for cryin out loud! You're setting yourself up for disaster. Stop that. And it doesn't matter if you come from a rich family or not. Do you have any idea how many people came from nothing or less than nothing and made something of themselves??

    You tried a few sports and hobbies but weren't that good. Ok so what. There's a ton of other things to try so get to it, unless of course you enjoy feeling sorry for yourself.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago | pl

    "In a forest a sapling looks up and sees it won't get any sunlight. So it changes course. Maybe just a few feet to the left, or right, and finds a hole through the canopy, and thrives."
    Dude, you couldn't possibly have tried EVERYTHING in your short life. There's so much out there you don't even know exists to do, that saying, "mediocrity is going to be my destiny from now on" is just plain silly. A whole shit pot of people don't find their "niche" until middle age or beyond, but have great lives seeking and trying.
    For fuck's sake, give yourself a chance.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago | pl

      I suppose so, I can still find something I am relatively good at... but my problem is not that. The issue is that at this point, I would never be able to be exceptional at anything. I will never be the best at anything, because even though I am young, I am too old to excel at anything.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago | pl

        I doubt that I can convince you that you are wrong, but you can. And if you give yourself a chance you will see.

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      • robbieforgotpw
        9 years ago | pl

        I wouldn't be the best powercrapper in the world if I had your attitude

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  • TwoThumbs
    9 years ago | pl

    Um...No one is born with skill. Skills are attained after years and years of practice. Your mindset sucks. You can achieve anything you are willing to achieve.

    Your too old to excel at anything? What the hell? You can't be for real. You're so dramatic. Almost no 18 year old is good at anything when you break it down into a numbers game. There is only 1 person that is best at a specific task at any given time. You know what...Drop that "poor me" bullcrap. Man up. Find something that interests you and do everything in your power to become the "best" at that.

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  • Crusades
    9 years ago | pl

    Don't give up. There's always a place for you in gay porn.

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  • TheMightyOz
    9 years ago | pl

    There is a place in this world where you can discover and work up to your full potential. People that do this are not famous but have the calm sense of satisfaction that they are pushing civilization forward.

    Find your place in the world.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago | pl

    Hey you. There is no reason for you to settle with mediocrity. That is one of my biggest fears, living an "average" life with a 9-5 job, kids, doing nothing special. I hope to impact the world!!

    You are freaking alive. That is a gift, my dear, so don't waste it being unhappy, normal, and feeling like death will be something to look forward to. Live for yourself and do what makes you happy.

    You want to knit? Then take knitting classes. They are a bitch, and freaking hard, but hot damn do I want to knit, and even though I suck asshole at it, I am determined to learn!

    Change your mindset. Being a dreamer is a good start, but you also need persistence. Don't settle with being unskilled; go out there and learn. I am sure I will add to this later but I have to go to class. Goodbye!

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  • 140240
    9 years ago | pl

    You sound like you've been raised in a society with unfair expectation. If every success means another person's loss, can a society where everyone succeeds really exist? Where do the losers go?

    You seem to have realised the problem. You think your life is over because the problem is insurmountable. I say your life has just begun because you're clever enough to spot the problem. So, what are you going to do about it?

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