Is it normal that i feel like man are super rude, stupid or as*holes to me?

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Hello, I am a 25 years old woman. All my life i have felt like is was difficult for me to find a boyfriend! Not because i am not attractive,I have a curvy body and i am very sexy, i wear a 32E bra and i have a VERY curvy bottom. In addition some people always considered my face beautiful, which i never saw THAT much, i was always insecure about my face AND body.

Then i started going to the gym and now people comment my body a lot, everytime strangers comment my body I feel violated and angry. In addition every time they comment my body and not my face i feel ugly! I don't want strangers to approache me and comment on my appearance. I take care of myself and i like to dress up as nice as possible, i guess you can even call me high maintenance. Man approache me often, which bothers me bc i don't want to look approachable, i am very picky.

I feel like i can't do anything with anyone bc man only see me as hot boobs and as* and maybe even ugly or avarage.I always had this fear and now that i workout my fear is WAY bigger! I would never have sex or a relationship with someone who doesn't think i am beautiful and only wants me from my body, this thought is like hell to me. Keep in mind that i don't know if that is true, it is just a fear that keeps my love life non existant.

Last but not least Ever since i went to the gym i have heard the "great body but OK face" from man and woman like 5 times. I don't want to bother with my appearance any more and what ppl say, it is imature and stupid! However those comments have made me paranoid, very angry with other woman and have left me alone!

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  • Boner_Face
    7 years ago | pl

    You sound like a total moron.

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    • JessicaRed
      7 years ago | pl

      You are very rude and i am not sure you are not the moron since you talk like that. But do you mind to expain why ?

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago | pl

    If you take offense at compliments on your body while at the gym or while you are wearing form-fitting clothes, then the problem is with you.

    You seem to perceive appreciation and attraction in a negative light. That means you're projecting your insecurities, which can make everything seem like a personal attack. You need to focus on loving yourself--which means actually believing you're as beautiful as you say you are.

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  • MichaelMyersindarkness
    7 years ago | pl

    How about you maKe up your mind you silly scag? Women like you are so annoying. Youre seemingly super insecure or have a huge inflated ego at the same time. You keep this kind of attitude and you wont find a mate and you will have become even more bitter. Also your looks will have faded and your tits will be all saggy and your face will look like shit by the time you realize you wasted too mich time overanalyzing everything. Knob.

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    • JessicaRed
      7 years ago | pl

      Really??? How about i know all of this but i don't know how to change. :P anyway thank you for "kindly" reassuring me about the truth. I really appreaciated your reply and i liked your brutal honesty.

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  • smackthelittlefatty
    7 years ago | pl

    You want people in your life but you hate everyone. You can't have it both ways. You are too young to be this bitter. You have a lot of life in you
    . Go out and live it!!

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    • JessicaRed
      7 years ago | pl

      Thank you for your comment i really appreciate it. Honestly it helped me and i am going to leave all that behind me and change.

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      • smackthelittlefatty
        7 years ago | pl

        You won't change overnight. It will take loads of work. Most times you will want to GIVE UP. That's not an OPTION!! HANG TOUGH!!

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        • JessicaRed
          7 years ago | pl

          hahaha..... ok thank you again. I know that i have to put a lot of determination into it and a lot of energy. ;) I know that i am wrong and that no matter what i have to change. Even if other people are as*holes sometimes, i won't let it effect me.

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  • smackthelittlefatty
    7 years ago | pl

    You sound like a complete nut case!! I'm running if I see you coming. Seek HELP!!!!!!

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  • _Jesus_
    7 years ago | pl

    At the start of your post you sound somewhat conceited. Then I noticed you had some deep psychological issues. This will come off weird but I think you should turn it down a bit. Be less maintenance and start eating some good ol' humble pie

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    • JessicaRed
      7 years ago | pl

      What do you mean by "deep psychological issues" can you please be more specific? Thank you for your responce... :)

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