Is it normal that i feel like a ghost when i am near my new friends?

Whenever I talk about the same topics as them, I try to fit in but they blank me out.

I'm given 0% attention and I'm constantly ignored.

Is this a normal?

And are they real friends?

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Based on 10 votes (3 yes)
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Comments ( 14 )
  • RoseIsabella

    Those people don't sound like real friends to me at all.

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    • Somenormie

      Is there a suggestion to stay to real ones?

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      • RoseIsabella

        I dunno what to say except that true friends are hard to come by. I have maybe a handful of true friends in real life.

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      • bbrown95

        Finding real friends is actually very hard, I've found. Unfortunately, a large amount of people are only out for themselves. You just have to keep meeting more people until you find ones who know how to treat you with decency and respect. I find that this is much harder at a younger age (I'm 25 and find that a large portion of people my age are still in the hateful, childish high school clique mode, and have only really found success in having intelligent conversations and being treated with respect by older people for the most part).

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        • RoseIsabella

          I literally have a handful of close friends.

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          • bbrown95

            Same here, I'm probably closer to my parents than anyone, and enjoy their company most.

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  • GeekyGold

    Um no. Real friends don’t do that. Find someone that treats you like a person and respects you like one. Actually I bet if you stop talking and giving your time to them, that’s when they decide to notice you.

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  • Lillie

    I've had that feeling so often and I would say no they are no real friends.

    But it could also be that you are very shy and quiet so they don't really hear you. Maybe when you alone with one of your friend tell them about your problem and see how they react. Just ask them in the right moment. It might be hard but it will be worth it in the future since then you can avoid wasting your time with people, who don't really deserve you.

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  • Cutiepie18

    Real friends don’t do that, i am a very shy introvert person, my friends know that and respect that, they make me feel included and they know i am not very talktative and they still acknowdlege my presence. Look for real friends who make u feel included and importante.

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  • bbrown95

    No, not normal, and I would say they're not your real friends. There is nothing worse than feeling like nobody would probably even notice if you just got up and left because they act like you're not even there.

    If they can't even bother to acknowledge you, especially when you're trying to talk to them about a topic they want to talk about and are interested in, they are not worth your time. Screw them.

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    • Somenormie

      I guess all I've got left are just my 5 real ones that I have made during my year.

      I guess I beat myself up for being not as popular as those fake friends.

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      • bbrown95

        Popularity is not a measure of self worth. In fact, it's not a measure of anything!

        I had a bully in high school who was considered "popular" and she was and still is a terrible person, and has never found any success in life. She is still only liked by her high school clique who are all exactly like her, and none of them are truly happy, and they are not true friends. All they do is act nice to each other's faces and then turn around and talk to each other about how much they can't stand one another. Give me one or two real friends over 10+ fake ones any day!

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        • Somenormie

          They probably played me for sucker.

          I'm better off speaking to my few real friends.

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          • bbrown95

            Yes you are! And it's okay, it happens to the best of us. Just know that the problem lies with them, not you.

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