I went through this in high school. To be honest, even though it seems like it would be very satisfying to seek revenge, it really wouldn't do anything but hurt yourself, most likely. Isn't there a quote that says something along the lines of "the best revenge is a well lived life" or something like that? I think that's true. Life is too short to worry about people who are no longer in your life and to allow them to still control your life. Instead, focus on bettering your life. I know it can be hard to let go, but the more you try to redirect your focus to making positive changes in your life, the happier you will be and you will eventually be able to put it behind you.
Also, not that this is an excuse for bullying behavior by any means, but just know that a lot of what was said and done to you was most likely not personal. Kids tend to be mean because they are insecure, don't realize the impact their words and actions really have on others, don't really know how to act, etc. Again, it's not an excuse for the behavior, but just know it most likely had nothing to do with you. Kids can just be very cruel.
The good news is that you're now an adult, and IME the adult world is much better than school, and most adults are much nicer. Of course, there will always be some that never outgrew high school and still act like asses, but that kind of behavior doesn't get people very far and is much less tolerated as an adult. You're away from all of those people from school now and can now surround yourself with much better adults.
IIN That I dream of torturing my childhood bullies?
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I went through this in high school. To be honest, even though it seems like it would be very satisfying to seek revenge, it really wouldn't do anything but hurt yourself, most likely. Isn't there a quote that says something along the lines of "the best revenge is a well lived life" or something like that? I think that's true. Life is too short to worry about people who are no longer in your life and to allow them to still control your life. Instead, focus on bettering your life. I know it can be hard to let go, but the more you try to redirect your focus to making positive changes in your life, the happier you will be and you will eventually be able to put it behind you.
Also, not that this is an excuse for bullying behavior by any means, but just know that a lot of what was said and done to you was most likely not personal. Kids tend to be mean because they are insecure, don't realize the impact their words and actions really have on others, don't really know how to act, etc. Again, it's not an excuse for the behavior, but just know it most likely had nothing to do with you. Kids can just be very cruel.
The good news is that you're now an adult, and IME the adult world is much better than school, and most adults are much nicer. Of course, there will always be some that never outgrew high school and still act like asses, but that kind of behavior doesn't get people very far and is much less tolerated as an adult. You're away from all of those people from school now and can now surround yourself with much better adults.