Is it normal that i don't think it's cheating as long as it's another woman?

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I don't think it's a big deal. If i was to find out my wife was bisexual and wanted sexual relationships with other women i wouldn't be too bugged about it. We would have to set up some ground rules of course so she doesn't run off with some one else and so something 4ucked up won't happen. Like she should only be involved with them for sex and not keep a long relationships with them, it should only involve other girls and no other guy under any circumstances. I'm not going to deny that my feelings about this is partly due to the fact that i find girl on girl action a turn on and that it gives me hope for a threesome with two women, but it's mostly because i really don't see anything wrong with it as long as she gets to satisfy her sexual urges and she's happy.

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  • VinnyB
    8 years ago | pl

    Nothing is cheating if it is approved in advance by both parties. Cheating is something you do behind someone's back. But as other users have mentioned, rules guarantee nothing, and sometimes when you temp fate it comes back to bite you.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago | pl

    You can make as many rules as you like, rules have never stopped anyone from falling in love.

    Be careful what you wish for: back in the 70's lots of blokes thought what you're suggesting would be a turnon, only to find their partners enjoyed lesbian sex so much they lost them permanently.

    My first sexual experience with another woman was a threesome set up by my then husband with his girlfriend as a turnon for him and I subsequently lived as a lesbian for around 30 years.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago | pl

    Don't be surprised if you lose her to a woman.

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago | pl

    It's cheating for sure. But not on the same level. Ur not having to deal with another guys left overs when ur pleasuring her. Personally, I'd only have a problem if it were a man she were fucking. Because I can't be a woman no matter how hard I try for her lol so it's no competition. But with a man, she is replacing what she could get from me, with another guy. It's betrayal on a whole other level.

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  • Phat
    8 years ago | pl

    Don't listen to all the negatives. Nothing wrong with your wife wanting a little strange that your not able to provide her. Now I would be one pissed off motherfucker if she was wanting dick because you have what she wants. Look on the bright side of things you may want to hint towards a three some or if you ever want a pole stuck up your ass you could do it with a clear conscious.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago | pl

    I believe anything consensual within your relationship is okay and it wouldn't be cheating however ME personally .. I wouldn't be subjecting myself and my wife to other partners because falling in love can be like stepping in a puddle ... you can't always help or avoid it . I also don't understand being married to then want or need others? why even get married then .. it would make more sense just to be in a polyamorous or three way relationship I would think and stay that way or marry into a monogamous relationship later .

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago | pl

    I can't say it better than Ellenna, except that once you are married, why would you need other partners? Aren't you supposed to get all that out of your system, BEFORE you settle down with someone for a lifetime? Why bother with marriage if you aren't going to be exclusive?

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  • Redcoats
    8 years ago | pl

    I think this is a common belief amongst most men, but to many many others, it's still cheating.

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