Is it normal that i don't like it when my boyfriend is concerned for me?

I am a very independent woman, and not clingy whatsoever. My boyfriend will sometimes become really caring and incredibly sincere, like assume something is wrong if I'm not smiling or when I talk about my past - had some bad experiences - he will try to make me feel better and say things like "it won't happen again I'll make sure of it" or "you don't need to worry, I'm here to protect you now" it annoys me. I won't tell him because this is how boyfriends/girlfriends should be, and it doesn't bug me that much. But when I sit there listening to it, it irritates me because I would prefer like a "slap in the face" kind of talk telling me to not be a baby, I don't like sappy romantic caring lovey-dovey type of stuff (well everything else like that is fine, but these situations I hate it.)

Is It Normal?
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  • Prideful people often gets uncomfortable when someone knows about their weakness and tries to comfort them. It just hurt their pride, that's why they don't like it.

    You can avoid that kind of situation by keeping everything to yourself and not talk about it with your boyfriend.

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  • Talk to him that is the only way to FIX things.

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  • That may mean you have underlying issues that could make a relationship hard for you. Caring about you shows how much you mean to him. If he doesn't care much about you and thus not concern about you then he doesn't love you much either.

    Otherwise find someone who loves you less, but bear the consequences

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  • You need to assure him that you can take care of yourself, that you are not his little housewife and that you don't need him to over-care.

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  • You should bite him in the dick on the next occasion that the opportunity presents itself.

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