Is it normal that i don't know how to make friends

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I don't really understand how to make friends anymore. When I was younger I had tons of friends but I suppose that's only because I wasn't so anxious about what other people think of me. I wouldn't even really consider them as friends just people I'd hang out with. I only had one and two friends that I'd consider my real friends but we fell out of touch.

I had to move a lot so each time I moved I made different friends but this time it just feels really difficult to even try.
I'm halfway through my freshman year of high school and I still have no friends. I feel so out of touch because I feel like I share none of the same interests other kids have in class. Like they're too loud and obnoxious and trying way hard to be cool and funny that I can't relate.

I'm trying to keep an open mind about how not everyone is the same but it's hard when the majority of people I face are just so...out there.

And Everytime I have a conversation with someone they just seem so uninterested in what I have to say. Like they listen but just move on so I feel like they don't even want me around so I never bother asking if I could hang out with them or ask if I could be friends with them because it feels kinda weird and pathetic.

I know I'm only young and I have more years to come but I'm moving away again this or next year and I'm afraid I'll still be in the same place I've always been as that weird silent awkward girl that sits in corner of the classroom.

I don't want to be alone.

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  • Meowypowers
    5 years ago

    I was a lot like you, my family moved around a lot and I never really fit in with anyone. I found random groups that were weird and tried to belong, but that ended up sending me down a path of bad decisions and doing things I regret. The truth is highschool isn't that important and when you graduate and go on to college or whatever you choose to do, you will be so far advanced as a person because you have been through real struggles.

    Know that in life, those silly things kids are joking about now won't matter in 5 years, 10 years. Your experience of suffering puts you ahead of the curve.

    I am not saying don't try and make friends, just realize you're way more mature than most of them and that will benefit you in the long term.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Very easy. You go up to someone, grab them around the throat and threaten to kill them if they don’t go to lunch with you. They’ll be a friend for life.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Ive always struggled with making and keeping friends.

    What I’ve been learning (that may help you as well,) is start with making small talk to others. Take an interest in what they say.

    Try to find common interests and hobbies. Or force yourself to get out of your comfort zone and try something new.

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  • Lestat565
    5 years ago

    Friends are overrated the more friends you have the bigger the chances for then to screw you over. Plus people in general are liars anyway whether they are friends with or not. It’s my belief that friends actually lie to you more.

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    • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
      5 years ago

      Theres good ppl out there but they are hard to find

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  • Nikclaire
    5 years ago

    Just be yourself and don't worry about it. I had tons of friends in high school and dont talk to any of them any more, so I just consider them to have been proximity friends.

    You may be awkward now, but that is not necessarily who you will turn out to be.

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    • YoloKingSwag69
      5 years ago

      I hope so because honestly it just feels uncomfortable being in most people's presence.

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      • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
        5 years ago

        Are you a dude or girl? Going to a local bar is a great start to socializing more. Usually bars have regulars and you will get to know more people.

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