Is it normal that i don't have a real connection to anybody?

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I'm a 19 year old student, I'm pretty much the average guy, I work out 5 or 6 days a week, I eat healthy, I have a normal job as a cashier, but I lack relationships across the board. I don't have friends, I have never had a girlfriend not even the fake grade school variety, and even the connections to family feel like they're falling apart. And this is not for lack of trying. I talk to people all day, at work at the gym, sometimes deep stuff, sometimes not so deep but I never really feel like im making any connections. I do have 2 people that I feel close to, my brother because yeah he's family, and married female coworker that I fucked around and fell in love with. But those wont last so long, my brother is growing up and I feel like we're loosing touch everytime we see each other, and the coworker situation is an obvious emotional shit storm that I really really need to avoid. I have been this way for as long as I can remember and it's really starting to wear on me. Eveyone is flourishing and no matter how hard I try or even how hard I dont try,I can't get close to anyone. So Is it normal?

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57% Normal
Based on 7 votes (4 yes)
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  • Holzman_67
    6 years ago

    wow im impressed
    most people your age are only concerned about being connected to wifi

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    • Dbjones
      6 years ago

      Thanks I guess.

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  • Aries
    6 years ago

    I have tremendous trouble finding a connection to others . I may possess traits of psychopathy and sociopathic tendencies however . It is important to fully understand yourself before trying to connect with and understand others . I come from a life of abuse and neglect and i know why i am the way i am . This helps me understand how to work on overcoming it . I suggest you do the same .

    warm regards

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  • yesnomaybeso
    6 years ago

    How are you doing, did anythign improve

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  • dweeb
    6 years ago

    I'm just a dweeb. I'm a loser that nobody wants to talk to. So, I hang out at IIN to be around cool people. Life is fun if you put coolness into your social environment.

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  • bulbasaur64
    6 years ago

    That's a difficult situation to be in, and I'm going through something similar. I have a friend I'm close to but overall my connections feel quite superficial, and it can be very lonely.

    It sounds like you have quite a busy life, with work, school, and exercise. Being so busy can make it hard to have time for socializing, and that can lead to the feeling that people don't want to socialize with you. But it's good that you're talking to people at work and they gym -- maybe it doesn't feel like much to you, but you never know, maybe it makes their day.

    I think a lot of people have the impression that we need to have very intense friendships, like seen on tv and in movies, where people are always together and share everything about themselves with their friends. But in reality it's not often like that; people are connected in complicated ways and can be subtle in showing they care. I'm sure your brother still cares for you deeply, even if he has a lot going on right now, and it sounds like the people you talk to enjoy talking to you. I know I wouldn't have a deep conversation with someone if I didn't value their company.

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  • JonathanOo
    6 years ago

    I've been in the same situation for years. Doesn't get much better unless you change your life/habits/Where you live. How did you get in a bad spot with a coworker? Maybe people don't view you as down to Earth or genuine? Idk but try not to fall too far down. It SUCKS

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    • Dbjones
      6 years ago

      She and I started working together 2 years ago,and this girl is exactly my type so of course I had to try to date from day one. She shut me down (rightfully), told me she was married. Turned out we had the morning shift together so it's just us there and after time passed and we got to know each other, we started getting along really well, and I was digging the vibe for sure and now we are like inseparable at work, we talk literally all day everyday we work together. Straight up Jim & Pam from the office. And because I'm a single looser I can't distingush between flirting and friendly joking. Fuck me this is sad all laid out.

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  • satanniggasandpopsicle
    6 years ago

    This is a real question

    Do you think alot?

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    • Dbjones
      6 years ago

      Doin it Right now.

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      • satanniggasandpopsicle
        6 years ago

        If you think alot it may drain from your emotion.

        Have more girls as friends.

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