What's going on between your legs is obviously an important factor in determining whether you enjoy sex, but what's going on between your ears is just as important if not more so.
The physical trauma of a baby passing through the vagina can do a real number on women and drastically change how they experience penis-in-vagina sex. However, since you had a Caesarean birth, it's highly unlikely that anything has physically changed "down there".
What has changed is that you've been through the hormonal upheaval of pregnancy and giving birth, and this will have affected your brain as much as the rest of your body. I obviously have no idea how becoming a mother has affected you psychologically, but I am sure that you'd be a very unusual woman if it hasn't affected you at all. It would also be surprising if having a baby hasn't had any effect on how you think of sex.
Seeing a gynaecologist as olderdude suggests isn't a bad idea, but it seems to me that you might also find it useful to talk to a counsellor who has experience of helping women with sexual issues and trying to figure out what exactly is going on in your head in regard to sex.
You thinking that all you needed to enjoy sex was to find a guy with a big tool is entirely understandable, but it's misguided. Researchers have found that only about a fifth of women are able to reach orgasm by penis-in-vagina thrusting alone. For the vast majority of women, that just doesn't provide enough stimulation to the clitoris. Also, it sounds like you believe that the only real sex involves having a penis in your vagina; that's a very limiting view. As a guy, I certainly believe that good sex will involve that at some point, but good sex also includes a lot of other stuff that's nearly as enjoyable for me, and possibly even more pleasurable for the woman I'm with.
I have heard that the passing of the baby through the vag isnt the reason that some women loose feeling it rather that the pelvic floor is wreaked. So my section to save my part was a waste of time. I have started pelic floor exercises and am putting a ball up inside and pushing it out. Hopefully this will sort me out and leave me tight , i think i was before but i never asked a partner .
Iin that i don't feel much after having a baby even with a big penis?
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What's going on between your legs is obviously an important factor in determining whether you enjoy sex, but what's going on between your ears is just as important if not more so.
The physical trauma of a baby passing through the vagina can do a real number on women and drastically change how they experience penis-in-vagina sex. However, since you had a Caesarean birth, it's highly unlikely that anything has physically changed "down there".
What has changed is that you've been through the hormonal upheaval of pregnancy and giving birth, and this will have affected your brain as much as the rest of your body. I obviously have no idea how becoming a mother has affected you psychologically, but I am sure that you'd be a very unusual woman if it hasn't affected you at all. It would also be surprising if having a baby hasn't had any effect on how you think of sex.
Seeing a gynaecologist as olderdude suggests isn't a bad idea, but it seems to me that you might also find it useful to talk to a counsellor who has experience of helping women with sexual issues and trying to figure out what exactly is going on in your head in regard to sex.
You thinking that all you needed to enjoy sex was to find a guy with a big tool is entirely understandable, but it's misguided. Researchers have found that only about a fifth of women are able to reach orgasm by penis-in-vagina thrusting alone. For the vast majority of women, that just doesn't provide enough stimulation to the clitoris. Also, it sounds like you believe that the only real sex involves having a penis in your vagina; that's a very limiting view. As a guy, I certainly believe that good sex will involve that at some point, but good sex also includes a lot of other stuff that's nearly as enjoyable for me, and possibly even more pleasurable for the woman I'm with.
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I have heard that the passing of the baby through the vag isnt the reason that some women loose feeling it rather that the pelvic floor is wreaked. So my section to save my part was a waste of time. I have started pelic floor exercises and am putting a ball up inside and pushing it out. Hopefully this will sort me out and leave me tight , i think i was before but i never asked a partner .