Is it normal that i didn't want my virginity to be taken by anyone i know?

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I wanted to get it out of the way so no guy would ever have any leverage over me in a relationship - so they wouldn't be able to be like "I took her virginity LOL" or that I would feel something like "*sob* he broke up with me...he was my first!" if we ever broke up.
I hooked up with someone in a different country, in fact, so that it is probably IMPOSSIBLE for knowledge of this to move to anyone I know. I don't do one night stands, just relationships, but this was the exception - I just wanted it out of the way so I could concentrate.
Understand/anyone feel the same? :3

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I did the opposite, I wanted to lose it to someone who cared, loved me and who I loved in return.

    The relationship didn't end well at all but I don't regret a single moment of it, especially losing my virginity to him.

    I was happy I lost it to someone I was with rather than a stranger.

    But still, if that's what you wanted to do, it's your body and normal.

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    • Hayze
      10 years ago

      I admire the sentiment. What I truly wanted was the same; to fall in love and lose my virginity with a special man who I would be emotionally and sexually bonded to.

      However, I decided the same as the OP; lost my virginity to a person I despised because then I did not have to feel sad about it or even think about it afterwards.

      For me it ended up being about claiming my body and my sexuality as my own, alone.

      Do I regret it? Yes, occasionally I do. However, I am not sure how I would feel being a virgin today. Actually, I am not sure how different my life might have been. Would I have taken different decisions... too personal to discuss here at this time.

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  • Chains_inWonderland
    13 years ago

    omg get a dildo and do it yourself

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    • Somone
      13 years ago

      LOL but that doesn't make her less of a virgin...

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      • Chains_inWonderland
        13 years ago

        why not

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        • Somone
          13 years ago

          because it's not loosing your virginity if it is with yourself!

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          • Chains_inWonderland
            13 years ago

            nu hu you would lose it to your self

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            • Somone
              13 years ago

              in that case most guys loose their virginity at age 12!(or less)

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  • sam94
    13 years ago

    Now that I think about it , that's a really good idea !
    Because youll probably never see him again and you will be less nervous when you do it with someone you love

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  • spotlessmind
    13 years ago

    i just did it myself haha. this might sound weird, but i searched around the house for something penis shaped and put a curling iron up there. and it felt pretty darn good after, so whatevs :)
    i know i'm still a virgin in the fact that i haven't had sex with a guy, but i'm not a virgin in a way because it won't hurt the first time, now that i did it myself.

    meh.. that sounds so weird. oh well lol

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  • russellnb
    13 years ago

    It should have been special and important. Just my opinion. I also lost my virginity to a stranger. I wish it had been special

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  • TheConsciousElectron
    13 years ago

    I did the exact same thing. Gave my virginity to a stranger and that was my one exception. Otherwise I don't sleep around. I was 18 and sick of being the virgin.

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  • Hayze
    10 years ago

    I think we need different words for the physical act of losing virginity meaning having any type of intercourse, and the interpersonal act of having intercourse with a person of your choice.

    My opinion is that I do not consider masturbation (including with penetration) as a means to lose virginity, just as most men do not consider it that way. I view it as the time in your life when you have consented to sex with somebody.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I feel like it's normal. I think that's it's an unconscious emotional attachment method that we use. I did the same thing.

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  • SillyKitty55
    13 years ago

    i thought if you got a didlo its losing your virginity because your having sex with a penis toy. anyways if you have intercourse w a dildo your having sex. soooo you could have just made it up and told all ur friends you lost it to a hunk when reality you lost it to a dildo. lololol
    but remember thats your little secret noone has to know right?
    haha...i was writing this as if you had lost it to a toy, but you really didn't do that so...

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    • Somone
      13 years ago

      loosing it to a toy isn't loosing it!

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  • LasNoches7
    13 years ago

    omg I can relate this is one ofe the reasons why I don't want to have sex

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    no the ppl you know could all suck and not be worth your time.

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  • Somone
    13 years ago

    it's horrible!sure u wont get the pain of figthing with who u lost ur virginity to but the lose of your virginity wouldn't be a nice memory to keep as it could be if you did it woith somone special and of course it's ur body ur free to do wathever u want.. but i don't think it's normal.. sure it's normal doing it cause most people loose their virginity that way but it's not normal wanting to do it...

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