I have the same thing but from the guy's side of it. I can hardly cum unless I imagine my gf having sex in front of me and saying humiliating teasing things to me all the while. That imaginary scene really triggers an orgasm for me but it's almost the only way I can cum at all. And I've done it so often I've basically trained myself to get turned on by it and nothing else really works.
I think it's possible to condition yourself to respond to different kinds of stimuli and probably condition yourself to something different later. I try not to worry about it, just enjoy what I can. I also struggled with the problem of feeling awful after I would have an orgasm with that in my head, ashamed, and that thought was mixed up with the good feeling of the orgasm so it was confusing and complex. I was worrying it was creating a negative self-image and limiting me outside of sex. I think it could actually. But I'm trying to accept what feels good and not stress out about it.
Let me know if you're in the same place and worrying about it, or have found a way to change it.
IIN that I can only orgasm if I imagine my boyfriend with another girl
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I have the same thing but from the guy's side of it. I can hardly cum unless I imagine my gf having sex in front of me and saying humiliating teasing things to me all the while. That imaginary scene really triggers an orgasm for me but it's almost the only way I can cum at all. And I've done it so often I've basically trained myself to get turned on by it and nothing else really works.
I think it's possible to condition yourself to respond to different kinds of stimuli and probably condition yourself to something different later. I try not to worry about it, just enjoy what I can. I also struggled with the problem of feeling awful after I would have an orgasm with that in my head, ashamed, and that thought was mixed up with the good feeling of the orgasm so it was confusing and complex. I was worrying it was creating a negative self-image and limiting me outside of sex. I think it could actually. But I'm trying to accept what feels good and not stress out about it.
Let me know if you're in the same place and worrying about it, or have found a way to change it.