I have been in those EXACT shoes and made a decision that for me, unfortunately, turned out bad because yes exactly what u r afraid of happening is what happened with me. I talked to him, brought it up, and he flipped out (almost entirely internalized everything). Said he was 'moving' suddenly like one or two states away and had a list of excuses why it was necessary, none of which had anything to do with my unexpected 'i have something i need to tell u' conversation. To this day, and I'm talking YEARS later, more than a decade and a half, he has never once brought it up, never once responded to me asking him about him, nothing but deflect, hide, deny, so on and so forth. So my advice based on my personal experience with this would be that if you do decide to talk to him about it/anything, please drill into him how absolutely, incredibly important it is that he understands that you are saying this not to put him on the spot in any way but because you deeply, extremely value the bond of your friendship with him and feel u have to bring this up or it would likely continue to bother u so much that an inappropriate reaction is almost guaranteed if kept 2 urself. I mean, i'm speaking ofc from the heart, from my own similar experience with this and my best friend, and anything u can relate to that i've written I hope can in some way bring light to a very foggy and uncertain outcome/situation. I was younger, obv. than I am today and make the classic mistake of thinking that going with truth, honesty, and speaking from the heart would guide me when I was truly terrified and SO clueless what to do, what to say, what would happen! I learned so much from that mistake i cannot overstate how much, it was an incredible amount of "what not to do" I gained from this lesson in life. I'm not religious but I'd pray that someone somewhere could avoid living thru the emotional pain of my naiveté by simply reading about my own experience. This is one million percent precisely why history is the perfect way of forecasting an unknown future, because had I known the potential outcomes from reading history in one form or another, there's no question I would have had some level of preparation in facing this, prompting me for a decision that instead of being a roll of the dice would have been based on something solid, something telling me that I was not walking into a situation I had absolutely zero preparation for and zero understanding how it might unfold. Information, and knowledge is power. That kind of information would have been priceless at the time, I would have known it immediately upon hearing it how ill-prepared I was walking in. >>I'm really not trying to beat myself up over this, just desperately seeking an incredibly raw, honest source of advice. I'm also assuming that level of honesty, looking back, is something I would recognize and benefit from. Sry 4 leaving a long comment guys!
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I have been in those EXACT shoes and made a decision that for me, unfortunately, turned out bad because yes exactly what u r afraid of happening is what happened with me. I talked to him, brought it up, and he flipped out (almost entirely internalized everything). Said he was 'moving' suddenly like one or two states away and had a list of excuses why it was necessary, none of which had anything to do with my unexpected 'i have something i need to tell u' conversation. To this day, and I'm talking YEARS later, more than a decade and a half, he has never once brought it up, never once responded to me asking him about him, nothing but deflect, hide, deny, so on and so forth. So my advice based on my personal experience with this would be that if you do decide to talk to him about it/anything, please drill into him how absolutely, incredibly important it is that he understands that you are saying this not to put him on the spot in any way but because you deeply, extremely value the bond of your friendship with him and feel u have to bring this up or it would likely continue to bother u so much that an inappropriate reaction is almost guaranteed if kept 2 urself. I mean, i'm speaking ofc from the heart, from my own similar experience with this and my best friend, and anything u can relate to that i've written I hope can in some way bring light to a very foggy and uncertain outcome/situation. I was younger, obv. than I am today and make the classic mistake of thinking that going with truth, honesty, and speaking from the heart would guide me when I was truly terrified and SO clueless what to do, what to say, what would happen! I learned so much from that mistake i cannot overstate how much, it was an incredible amount of "what not to do" I gained from this lesson in life. I'm not religious but I'd pray that someone somewhere could avoid living thru the emotional pain of my naiveté by simply reading about my own experience. This is one million percent precisely why history is the perfect way of forecasting an unknown future, because had I known the potential outcomes from reading history in one form or another, there's no question I would have had some level of preparation in facing this, prompting me for a decision that instead of being a roll of the dice would have been based on something solid, something telling me that I was not walking into a situation I had absolutely zero preparation for and zero understanding how it might unfold. Information, and knowledge is power. That kind of information would have been priceless at the time, I would have known it immediately upon hearing it how ill-prepared I was walking in. >>I'm really not trying to beat myself up over this, just desperately seeking an incredibly raw, honest source of advice. I'm also assuming that level of honesty, looking back, is something I would recognize and benefit from. Sry 4 leaving a long comment guys!