Is it normal that i became gay, but now i want to be with a girl badly?

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I really don't know how to define my sexuality. When I was young I thought I was straight, I even had 2 girlfriends, but we never had sex... Mostly because we were young, but I did feel aroused with them.

After watching more porn I discovered that I liked gay stuff too. At my 20s I decided to become gay, so I dated a few guys too... I only went as far as getting oral sex though (and I could have gotten a lot more).

The thing is that now... I feel really attracted to women again. I really want to have sex with a girl... I don't even feel like doing anything with guys anymore... I don't know what is happening to me.

I am really afraid about these phases I am going through. I don't think I will ever be able to be just with one person, because eventually I will want to have sex with the other gender again. I just want to make sure I can control this.

The worst is that I am really not a very sexual person. In fact, I could survive without having much sex. I just wish to be able to make the person I date happy.

So, what can I do?

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you're bi but havent decided on your preference yet. Just say "bi" when you get asked your sexuality so you can feel free to date who you want reguardless of gender until you find someone you want to spend your life with :) (or someones... or something? lol)

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  • BHolt
    11 years ago

    If you like both, you're bisexual. Not gay.

    Also, as for changing preference between men and women over time, that is normal. It's like drinking flavoured milk, you might start out liking plain milk; then one day you try chocolate and discover you like it better (to the point that you don't want plain anymore). Then 2 years down the line you might try drinking strawberry milk and find that you switch your preference from chocolate to strawberry...

    woah, not sure where the milk analogy came from, but the idea still stands.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    You are a fucking fruit so what?

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    I went through several phases: str8, gay, bi until I settled on heterosexual married, sou you do evolve.

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  • pancakesorwaffles
    11 years ago

    Also just find a girl/boy that also doesn't like much sex then u will be happy together :)

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  • pancakesorwaffles
    11 years ago

    U cants become gay ur either born gay or not also I think your bisexual xoxo gossip girl

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    • davesumba
      11 years ago

      it's developed.

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    • BHolt
      11 years ago

      I think what he meant was he stopped holding back his homosexual urges and embraced them. When people do this they describe it as a "choice" even though it isn't.

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