Author, I realize that this is a difficult situation for you, and it is not my aim or intention to be condescending, rude or aggressive towards you. I applaud you for having the courage to bear your private issues in the public domain and seek support that you feel you need.
I think a major reason why relationships and marriages come to an end, is because people sometimes change over time, and one party is unable or unwilling to appreciate and value the changes taking place. The difficulty you may be experiencing in accepting the unknown actions of your boyfriend are an indication that you don't trust him right now. While this lack of trust may be associated with his reckless actions, it seems that what you distrust the most is what he is telling you he did do. You are assuming he did more than he says he did. If this assumption can be backed up by fact, then your distrust is valid and he may not be a safe and responsible partner for you. If you are simply going on your assumptions just because he changed, then this may be jealousy at the fact that he was able to do something with other girls that you held as specially yours and his alone to share.
Hazed (poster above) gives some excellent suggestions of steps to take. I recommend that you consider the suggestions and perhaps use what seems most meaningful to you.
IIN that I am in love with my boyfriend and I want to leave him?
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Author, I realize that this is a difficult situation for you, and it is not my aim or intention to be condescending, rude or aggressive towards you. I applaud you for having the courage to bear your private issues in the public domain and seek support that you feel you need.
I think a major reason why relationships and marriages come to an end, is because people sometimes change over time, and one party is unable or unwilling to appreciate and value the changes taking place. The difficulty you may be experiencing in accepting the unknown actions of your boyfriend are an indication that you don't trust him right now. While this lack of trust may be associated with his reckless actions, it seems that what you distrust the most is what he is telling you he did do. You are assuming he did more than he says he did. If this assumption can be backed up by fact, then your distrust is valid and he may not be a safe and responsible partner for you. If you are simply going on your assumptions just because he changed, then this may be jealousy at the fact that he was able to do something with other girls that you held as specially yours and his alone to share.
Hazed (poster above) gives some excellent suggestions of steps to take. I recommend that you consider the suggestions and perhaps use what seems most meaningful to you.
best of luck to you!