You have expressed hurt, anger, disgust and a bit of jealousy at the fact that while you and your ex were broken up, he began to see other women. It seems as though you would have prefered for him to consult with you about the ways in which he lived his life while you 2 were broken up. This seems manipulative and controlling to me. While it does seem that he was living a risky life at that time, it is, was and remains none of your business nor would it ever be under your control what/how/why he did whatever he did. Take responsibility for your feelings, let him take responsibility for his actions (and the feelings he claims drove him to them).
You have some insight into what your ex might do if you or another stable girlfriend is not in the picture. If you feel confident that he would not cheat on you if you got back into a relationship (and you genuinely believe you love him as you say you do) and can forgive his more lecherous appetites, then go ahead and build a life-long relationship with him. If you decide on this, then you have to try to forget his actions and stop using them as a weapon to control and hurt him back (notice, I did not say FORGIVE and forget because his actions are not yours to forgive).
I hope these suggestions are helpful and that you are able to make decisions that will bring you the longest, deepest and most sincere contentment.
IIN that I am in love with my boyfriend and I want to leave him?
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You have expressed hurt, anger, disgust and a bit of jealousy at the fact that while you and your ex were broken up, he began to see other women. It seems as though you would have prefered for him to consult with you about the ways in which he lived his life while you 2 were broken up. This seems manipulative and controlling to me. While it does seem that he was living a risky life at that time, it is, was and remains none of your business nor would it ever be under your control what/how/why he did whatever he did. Take responsibility for your feelings, let him take responsibility for his actions (and the feelings he claims drove him to them).
You have some insight into what your ex might do if you or another stable girlfriend is not in the picture. If you feel confident that he would not cheat on you if you got back into a relationship (and you genuinely believe you love him as you say you do) and can forgive his more lecherous appetites, then go ahead and build a life-long relationship with him. If you decide on this, then you have to try to forget his actions and stop using them as a weapon to control and hurt him back (notice, I did not say FORGIVE and forget because his actions are not yours to forgive).
I hope these suggestions are helpful and that you are able to make decisions that will bring you the longest, deepest and most sincere contentment.
best of luck to you.