Is it normal that i am in love with my boyfriend and i want to leave him?

I don't know if he's a liar or not. That's really the bottom line. He wouldn't be the first man that can have sex for pleasure and nothing more, though.

Trust your gut

I have no advice but good luck

i'm sure many people go through a similar situation!

at least you guys were best friends. sometimes, i feel like i can't connect with my BF because he's just so awkward and socially inept.

First off, neither of you have to justify what went on when you were broken up. Just make sure the other is STD free. If this was going on behind your back when you were together, I would then raise my brows. Right or wrong, he was probably lonely, horney as hell. I've been there and the whole time wanted my relationship back. Since we worked through it, no cheating for nearly 19 years. And I'm 38

Don't settle. If you realize you want to leave him, why would you stay with him? Look around for other guys and break up with him, Rand if you find other guys that don't make you as happy, think about how much happier you are with him.
If you're only a little happier, keep looking. There's someone for everyone.
If you're a lot happier, think things through- do you still love him even though ge did that? Can you see yourself spending your life with him? If the answers are yes, get him back.
Don't ruin the rest of your life and get back a guy you end up not being happy with at all.
Don't settle.

Simply: trust your intuition.

Author, I realize that this is a difficult situation for you, and it is not my aim or intention to be condescending, rude or aggressive towards you. I applaud you for having the courage to bear your private issues in the public domain and seek support that you feel you need.

I think a major reason why relationships and marriages come to an end, is because people sometimes change over time, and one party is unable or unwilling to appreciate and value the changes taking place. The difficulty you may be experiencing in accepting the unknown actions of your boyfriend are an indication that you don't trust him right now. While this lack of trust may be associated with his reckless actions, it seems that what you distrust the most is what he is telling you he did do. You are assuming he did more than he says he did. If this assumption can be backed up by fact, then your distrust is valid and he may not be a safe and responsible partner for you. If you are simply going on your assumptions just because he changed, then this may be jealousy at the fact that he was able to do something with other girls that you held as specially yours and his alone to share.

Hazed (poster above) gives some excellent suggestions of steps to take. I recommend that you consider the suggestions and perhaps use what seems most meaningful to you.

best of luck to you!

I don't think it will hurt you to at least give it some time and try to see if things will work out with him now. With time, these feelings may pass.

Set a date for yourself and if you are still feeling the urge to jump ship, then do so. You don't want to waste too much time if you are sure the relationship will fail because of his past dealings.

However, you also will feel very unsatisfied in life if you don't at least give it a real try. I mean, what have you got to lose by giving it a couple more months?

Also, communicate with him. If you two connect so well, then he should be able to understand your insecurities, and help you through them.

Do not keep these feelings to yourself. That's what relationships are for. That's what significant others are for. Talk with him, you may feel better about things. Also, it may show you another side of him you haven't seen before.

Good luck.

I understand that it was his business to do what he wanted while we weren't together, but what I am saying is that I don't know exactly how many other girls he was with and I feel dirty having sex with him not knowing how many or if he even used protection. Before me, he was only with two other girls. I have strong morals and someone who sleeps around recklessly does not fit my standards, and prior to the six months we weren't together, I could not even imagine that he would ever do that because at one time he had the same morals as I, which was one of the reasons we fit so well together.

I don't consider what he did cheating, obviously, since we were not together at the time. We have been back together for 4 months now, and for the first 3 I just kept pretending like nothing ever happened but now the thoughts are eating away at me. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone, but I just don't feel like our relationship is special anymore. I don't feel like I am, nor my body is, nor our sexual relationship is special anymore.

You have expressed hurt, anger, disgust and a bit of jealousy at the fact that while you and your ex were broken up, he began to see other women. It seems as though you would have prefered for him to consult with you about the ways in which he lived his life while you 2 were broken up. This seems manipulative and controlling to me. While it does seem that he was living a risky life at that time, it is, was and remains none of your business nor would it ever be under your control what/how/why he did whatever he did. Take responsibility for your feelings, let him take responsibility for his actions (and the feelings he claims drove him to them).

You have some insight into what your ex might do if you or another stable girlfriend is not in the picture. If you feel confident that he would not cheat on you if you got back into a relationship (and you genuinely believe you love him as you say you do) and can forgive his more lecherous appetites, then go ahead and build a life-long relationship with him. If you decide on this, then you have to try to forget his actions and stop using them as a weapon to control and hurt him back (notice, I did not say FORGIVE and forget because his actions are not yours to forgive).

I hope these suggestions are helpful and that you are able to make decisions that will bring you the longest, deepest and most sincere contentment.

best of luck to you.

I was going through a difficult time with my most recent ex, so we took a break for about two weeks. After that we started dating again and I founf texts on her phone from a guy she worked with saying he wanted to f**K her all day and all night long. I confronted her about it and said he was just a friend. I said that friends don't send those kind of things. She disagreed. We split up and she came back a week later to get her stuff. Whilst she was upstairs I saw texts on her phone from him asking when he could 'have' her again. She'd slept with him the afternoon we'd split up. I stormed out and drove to see a friend but had to stop as I was shaking so much. I've never felt like that before and never want to again. We got back together a few months later but I didn't trust her. I asked her if she'd seen him after the incident and she said no it was just the one time. She had a new phone and mine was broken so she lent me her old one. Low and behold there were texts on there between them. They had only broken up after we got back together. She was now close with this guys best friend. When I came down for the weekend she put him before me. I picked my case and walked out. Now she's had a kid with him. Mkes me think was she sleeping with him whilst we were trying to get back together.

I'm glad now that I walked away. I couldn't stop thinking of her with him or trust her. Then when I found out she'd lied to me again and went with his best friend I realised I'd made the right decision.

Take what you want from my story but a lack of trust will affect your relationship. If you can't forgive or forget then walk away. It will hurt, but a lot less than if you got married and found out he had been unfaithful.