Is it normal that i am happier when i am single than in a relationship

I'd rather stay single than be with the wrong person!

Relationships bring too much stress.
Sometimes it is lonely and depressing being single but never as miserable as a relationship can be.

Being by yourself helps you find who you really are, some of us are meant to be solitary.

There are many good things about being single. It is "against nature" to be single in the sense that it doesn't help to perpetuate the species, but it's not like being single inevitably leads to an early death. The main thing being single is contrary to are the prevailing social norms, and some people find dealing with the social pressures on them to pair-up challenging.

Studies have found that people are generally healthier and happier when they've pair-bonded with someone else, but some people seem incapable of finding someone they can have a positive relationship with and maintaining that for any length of time.

Like most things in life, it's a matter of costs versus benefits (and I don't mean only financial cost). If you are genuinely happier being single, then stay unattached. On the other hand, if you feel conflicted both when you're in a relationship and when you aren't - feeling that something is missing in your life when you're alone, then resenting the lack of freedom and intrusion in your life when you're in a relationship - then you should try to sort this out.

Being in a serious relationship with another person who has their own needs and desires does involve surrendering some control. If being in charge is of crucial importance to you, then you won't be benefiting only yourself by staying single; you'll be doing a favour to all the people you might have got involved with who would have ended up miserable after being with you for a while.

As it says in my profile I'm bi and live in Pattaya, Thailand. I have now been on my own for some 20 years, can have one, two nighters with the boys and girls here, they're not looking for relationships just the money they earn. I had a very nomadic work life, I got the jobs because I had no baggage, I'm afraid more people are getting to see family=baggage!

It was a hard expensive lesson.
But Im better off alone and just hitting one nighters.
Then being with the wrong person.
The right person isnt always easy to find, especially if you live in the wrong place.
But when you are with the right person, things are pretty good.
I guess, dont settle.
is all I would say.

It's because you've never been in love.
You can't understand love unless you've really loved someone more than anything in life itself.

Sometimes relationships work where people actually click but most of it is basically just finding somebody to be in a relationship with and then trying to turn them into the person you're actually looking for. It's more about societal expectations/boredom/some freaks actually want children etc...

I'm feeling this way a lot lately.

Then be single.

Just my opinion. I think too many people get involved too quickly. Not many stay single for 5 yrs and more to actually see how wonderful it is to be single. Your life gets filled with activities as the yrs pass. Before you know it, you don't have time for a relationship, you're constantly going.

Anyway .. nearly 14 yrs single for me, and I love it!

Stay single then, who cares? Unless the little pay off that you talk about is actually vital to you. If the pay off you're talking about is sex, then you could use escorts instead.

I wont say its normal.
But some folks are just wired this way.
That said, I do think they would gladly settle.
But not just with any average warm piece of meat.
Some people want more.