What a difficult situation to be in. Your feelings seem very sincere and I'm sure they are. As long as you're not sexually active with this girl until she's of legal age I don't see much harm coming from it, other than you getting deeply hurt when she does meet someone else and fall in love with them. Girls this young tend to be fickle with their emotions. Not out of choice, but it's something that happens as they grow up. Feelings towards people change as one matures. Although everything about this situation is wrong on the level that you're so much older and she's really still a baby - it seems pedophillic in a sense - at the same time it's very sad, especially since you're cogniscent of the fact that you cannot have sexual relations with her and that is obviously not what your feelings are about. You are right, we can't help who we love and when we're past a certain age, it stops mattering to a certain degree, but right now, it matters a whole lot. Proudfear is right, what happens in 20 yrs? Your bodies will be on different levels - yours will be winding down for one thing and hers just starting to heat up. I would seriously suggest you tread very carefully with this situation.
On a more positive note, I know a couple - for the past 15 years now, she was only 14 when a man took her in - she was a runaway from a messed up family - and he was much older. Everyone thought it was sick and weird, but they're still together today and very much in love. He has never mistreated her, but rather uplifted her from a bad situation.
iin that i am 31 and in love with a 15 year old
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What a difficult situation to be in. Your feelings seem very sincere and I'm sure they are. As long as you're not sexually active with this girl until she's of legal age I don't see much harm coming from it, other than you getting deeply hurt when she does meet someone else and fall in love with them. Girls this young tend to be fickle with their emotions. Not out of choice, but it's something that happens as they grow up. Feelings towards people change as one matures. Although everything about this situation is wrong on the level that you're so much older and she's really still a baby - it seems pedophillic in a sense - at the same time it's very sad, especially since you're cogniscent of the fact that you cannot have sexual relations with her and that is obviously not what your feelings are about. You are right, we can't help who we love and when we're past a certain age, it stops mattering to a certain degree, but right now, it matters a whole lot. Proudfear is right, what happens in 20 yrs? Your bodies will be on different levels - yours will be winding down for one thing and hers just starting to heat up. I would seriously suggest you tread very carefully with this situation.
On a more positive note, I know a couple - for the past 15 years now, she was only 14 when a man took her in - she was a runaway from a messed up family - and he was much older. Everyone thought it was sick and weird, but they're still together today and very much in love. He has never mistreated her, but rather uplifted her from a bad situation.