Is it normal that i’m seeing my ex-stepmom

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She and my dad divorced a year ago. She’s 41 & I’m 19 & female. She left my dad for a young woman but it didn’t last. I’ve been seeing her for 4 months and she wants me to move in with her. I said but dad can’t know. She told me to relax because we can tell him that it’s a mom/daughter living situation, that he doesn’t need to know that we are intimately involved. I admired her growing up and had a crush on her. I was even jealous of her seeing the other young woman. I guess that’s part of what attracted me to her and now she’s mine.

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Based on 14 votes (6 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Dangerous waters you are entering if you value the relationship with your father.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I value my relationship with my dad. That’s why I don’t want him knowing. I also want to be with her.

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        I understand what you are saying, but secrets have a habit of comeing out. If you continue on your current course of action you could end up having to choose between them. My advice would be to speak to your dad and explain you have been in contact with her. Tell him she has made advances towards you and that you feel quite flattered by that. Ask him if he thinks you should get involved with her. Be honest about your feelings and tell him you don't want her to come between the two of you. Find out what he thinks about it all.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Okay I’m thinking about doing that then. I just know that dad will likely not like it and I feel embarrassed to tell him. I love her so much. It’s kind of weird that I’m involved with her because I still look at her like my mom.

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      • Avant-Garde
        5 years ago

        Wouldn't he be devastated then if he were to somehow find out? You would've betrayed your father, his trust and your relationship. I don't think you actually give a damn about your father. I think you are only caring about yourself.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          I love my dad. I don’t really want him to know right now because he probably won’t like it and I don’t want him to hurt. I think if I wait awhile to tell him, he will be a little more accepting about it. I also love her and don’t want to lose her.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I believe she posted here just last week.

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    • Arrissot
      5 years ago

      No that was something else, about a dad who died etc.

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