Is it normal that having children of my own are not in my equation of success

I dunno, that's on them. Not everyone wants kids. To be completely honest the whole birthing process has always looked way too painful for me. I literally saw my mom come out of the hospital in a wheelchair when I was three years old, and said to myself, "that having babies stuff looks dangerous".

Very normal.

I have noticed this as well. I'm also a childfree woman as well as one who is single by choice with no intentions to date, enter a relationship, or eventually marry, and people react strangely to my choices, too.

My only guess to why people react so negatively is:
1) They're very closed minded and unable to imagine why anyone would want to live their lives any differently than they do.
2) They aren't happy with their own choices and therefore want to invalidate others'.
3) They desperately want validation for their own choices (perhaps they feel they have to do these things because of societal pressure and don't really want to) and don't like the fact that others may not feel pressured (or care about the pressure) and can still be happy without doing those things.

What I really hate, though, is when people act as if being single and childless is a sign of unhappiness or a lack of success in life, and that relationship status and having children is a guarantee to make people happy (which is extremely unhealthy and results in toxic relationships as well as dysfunctional families). Just because a lifestyle choice is not the norm does not mean there's anything wrong with it or that one cannot be happy or successful with it.

Honestly, 99.9% of the time, when people are negatively judging your life when you're doing nothing to hurt anyone, they're doing it because they're unhappy and/or insecure.

Eventually when you decide to stop interacting with people that you do not have to, only then will they stop trying to tell you how to live.

Now about having kids - Having kids sucks.

It is funny though when new parents say "Kids grow up so fast" even though their own kids is only months old.

It is like, "You have not even suffered the terrible two's, haven't had to fight the school system, try to figure out how to handle it when the little brat starts pissing off other kids in the neighborhood, or breaks things, etc."

Of course as a parent you work your ass off, deal with BS, don't get to live a life, etc. Meanwhile, your own family is telling you what a rotten negligent parent you are.

I've never had kids of my own, can't.
Been married three times and a main cause of the break ups were the children they had previously had.

You're just fine Op. A lot of people who have kids or want kids just refuse to understand that not everyone's life works the way theirs does. Just ignore them.

Having kids is fucking hard work. It was the right choice for me because it's something I really wanted, and I find it very rewarding. For God's sake don't even think of doing it unless you really want it. Fuck what other people think, just do what feels right for you.

I suspect that the reaction of some women could be due to them seeing your determination to remain childless as selfish. I don't know how much is due to an innate biological urge and how much is due to social pressure to conform to the norm and have children, but many women think of having kids as something they'll inevitably do, sooner or later.

But there are women who, for one reason or another, are utterly certain that they never want to have a child. I guess you've never met one, but they are out there.

I adore my daughter and she's a crucial part of my life. She wasn't planned, but I was thrilled when I learned my then-girlfriend was pregnant and I haven't regretted being a father for a moment. But I'm also convinced that the vast majority of people have not the faintest clue about what being a parent actually involves until they're holding their infant in their arms. It changes your entire world, it's nothing at all like any other sort of relationship you've ever had, and any sane, rational person should find the very idea of being totally responsible for the care and upbringing of another human being daunting.

Since becoming a parent, I've come to believe that most parents conceal what the role is really like when talking to non-parents. There are many parents who regret having children, but this attitude isn't socially acceptable, and most people are sensible enough to understand that no child wants to hear from their parents that they're unwanted. A cynic might say that discontented parents hide the reality from non-parents because there's some comfort in shared misery, but I think it's mainly about people being reluctant to admit they made a mistake on such a huge decision that has life-long consequences.

If you don't want to be a father, that's a reasonable decision, and nobody who isn't certain that they want to have a child should ever have one. Having a kid because it's the 'normal' thing to do is stupid. Having a child because of pressures from parents, peer-competition, what religious leaders say, or because of how Hollywood and the advertising industry depicts kids is even dumber.

Kids are overrated. Ive known so many nroke single moms. One job one of them got a pike 550$ check and she was ecstatic. She litterky told me that was the biggest check she's ever gotten. This is for 2 weeks work. Its always the moms who are most shocked when they find out how muvh I make. That alone is enough to put me off kids.

Yet so many women can only think about getting kids like its the biggest thing they'll ever accomplish. Like yea no go ahead flush the life you were given right down the drain. Its freaking nuts.

Honestly i won't even date a guy who has kids unless they are at least 14 or older. Liking older guys tends to make that difficult haha.

Kids are disgusting, messy little gremlins that shit everywhere and ruin your life. Without exception, every parent I’ve ever met resents having children. Good for you for not falling into that trap.

I want kids so that I can be an entitled prick who thinks he's god and his child is jesus.

Depends on the game.

Its not but in most polls of success people vote children as their greatest achievement.

only 2 cars?

amateur