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I'm 22 years old and for the last 6 years (December will make it 7 years) I've had crushes on only celebrities. They're very huge crushes, as well, lasting for as long for as long as 1 to 2 years. And, typically, I don't know anything about the guys before I start to crush on them, only what there physical appearance is.
You're never too old to think an entertainer is hot...but WITH THAT SAID:
1. What are you doing with your life? Do you have a circle of friends? You need to socialize more to get in contact with people...and get to know male people.
2. What do you look like? What do you smell like? Assess these things because you must be attractive to to men in your area.
3. Crushing is NOTHING like loving. Crushing is lonely and one-sided but you can chose men soley on their appearance and they cannot do anything to directly impact your life or annoy you much. Loving is intimate and rewarding but your man will not necessarily be a perfect mannequin and he will do things to PISS YOU OFF. Also, you can crush on ANY star if you want, you CANNOT and SHOULD not date any man if you want.
I would limit your encounters with hottie stars for awhile. Stay away from the internet for awhile. Go assess your life.
1. I work at a retail shop. I never liked having lots of friends. I hang out with two people (an engaged couple) that I met in high school. We usually hang out every weekend and while we sometimes hang out with mutual friends I met through them, they're the only ones I really spend a lot of time with, but I like it that way. Again, I don't really like having lots of friends. 1 to 2 friends was always the best number for me.
2. Not to sound arrogant, but if I had to rate myself, I'd give myself an 8. I get hit on a lot, and I've also had lots of male friends mention how they wanted to start a relationship with me, but I always decline due to a lack of feelings for them. I'm approached by men probably more than a lot of girls but I don't see myself in a relationship. I'm not someone who is afraid of a relationship but, at the same time, I'm not looking for one either. If it comes, it comes, but I'm certainly not someone to get into a relationship with someone solely to be in a relationship.
3. I'm not an affectionate person. Never been. The guys who have wanted relationships with me are usually very affectionate and that's one of the things that kind of drives me away. I'm not into holding hands, cuddling, and all that. I always figured that if I were to get into a relationship with someone, it would be more like a friendship than anything else. I'm not saying that I can't love or don't want to love, but I am saying that I am not looking for love. The men (celebrities) I get crushes on are not by choice. I see a beautiful man and I tend to want to look at him more after that. Sometimes it becomes an infatuation other times it does not.
I see males as the fairer sex and often times I look at them not just for sexual reasons but to admire their aesthetics. It would be hard to stay away from the internet. There's not really much to do in a day after I get home from work especially since I come home really tired (I work stalk room for 4 to 8 hours a day) and the first thing I want to do is wind down. The internet is my way of relaxing.
Also, I made an effort at not looking at Sebastian Bach for one hour. Couldn't do it. Before I knew it, I was always looking at him.
In my opinion, celebrity crushes constitute place fillers. Celebrities are the perfect blank, albeit good looking slate for you to project your fantasies onto. It allows you to redirect your feelings about romance to a safe, inconsequential place where everything is perfect. It sort of serves a purpose, but it's not healthy to be consumed with it at your age. You need to put yourself out there and date real, imperfect, quirky people.
I think you'll move on from it when you start dating and your focus shifts to figuring out what kind of person you really want a relationship with. Just be careful not to get unrealistic standards or expectations- celebrities don't actually exist the way they are portrayed in the media. They are idealized, in a real person you have to accept the bad with the good and there is no make up crew on hand.
Also I'm not saying you do this, but I knew a girl with serious celebrity crushes who probably drove off any potential boyfriends throughout high school by constantly talking about joe Jonas lol.
By dating do you mean have a boyfriend or just going on dates? I've been on dates before. One when I was 19 with a guy I met at the theatre I performed at (I didn't care for him much, honestly, just wanted to get the experience of dating). And another, just recently, with a male friend. Honestly, the male friend had all the qualities I would like in a guy (creative, smart, unique, virtuoso). I just can't seem to develop any feelings for him. I can't seem to develop any feelings for anyone who is attainable for some reason. I'm not a very affectionate person, never have been. I also have Asperger's as well, so I'm not sure if that plays a part.
That's what I was warning about. Not being able to develop feelings for an average person. That could be due to aspergers though, as well as your preference for celebrities. I know it makes it harder to socialize and connect with others, and none of that matters when crushing on people you don't actually interact with.
I guess there's no real harm in it, just try to push yourself to give it a fair chance when guys you could see yourself potentially connecting with ask you out
i'm like that too, deathly afraid of real relationships but always desiring celebrities. not that i'm afraid of being in a relationship per se, but more afraid of the things that are involved in them including investing time and effort and money, and fear of being criticized and rejected by others.