Iin, that...i've been going for drinks at places my ex and i used to go to?

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I seem to have been frequenting establishments that my ex-wife and I used to go to, more or less because my current group of associates, both from my personal life and the other sports bar I go to, not going to those places. Kind of feel like it's a combination of avoiding the current people, and maybe..Going back to the places where I and we would go and maybe were happy.

Both are close by, and not really where people "go to drink", which I don't anyway, but, are better, more corporate, non-sports bar people only out to get drunk. I know enough of those. Is it normal that, even though I'm going out a bit lately, it's to "better" places where my current people don't go, and, coincidentally, I went with my ex wife? Not sure if this is getting away from the current, in the present, or, just reaching back for the past, but.. I have been going to two places where we used to go, and, are just better than the sports bar..

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    If you have recently broken up you are still attached to the familiar. Don't do that. Go to new places. Move on.

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    • Mehereok1
      5 years ago

      The breakup/divorce isn't recent, and, for a long time, I stayed away from those familiar places. Actually, stopped into one of them earlier this year, chatted with some staff, and told them I haven't been here in years. I've been going to different places over the years, but think they're getting old now, too. Might be rounding back to the previous.

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  • Appareson
    5 years ago

    Because I saw an old man in Mcdonalds the other day I go there not because I want Mcdonalds but because want to be reminded subconsciously of the old man.

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    • Fair_Lucy
      5 years ago

      I feel like that's a lot stranger than OP's thing.

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  • Slowlymovingfast
    5 years ago

    The need to glamorize the past is very strong.

    I find myself only thinking of the good times with my ex-wife which honestly were very few.
    And I feel the need to believe that the bad times, of which there were many, were not as bad as they actually were.

    It's normal and healthy as long as it doesn't become an obsession

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    • Mehereok1
      5 years ago

      I think that's part of it, the wanting to remember not only the good times with her, but, maybe the "better me" and feeling on top of the world (at the time). Could also be a tiring of the same people I associate with, and wanting to be better again. Not that my current people are bad; I just feel I can do better.

      It won't become an obsession, since the first place I ate at was after shopping and getting gas nearby, and the second, stopping for two small drafts b/c the place was close to home. Not like I went out of my way to go to these places.

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