Is it normal she acted like this when in my room?

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I worked at this place a long time ago now. It was a shit place but I made a few friends there, sort of.
Anyway there was this one girl I really wanted to get to know outside of work because it felt like we got along well at our works. She was rather introvertish imo but anyway I offered her to hang out.
At the time I was 20 and she was 21 (I'm also a girl ).
First time I asked her to hang, I gave her the option of what she wanted to do and she said she wanted to come see my reptiles so she came to mine.
When she was over she had to come in to my room to see them and I had to close the door so they wouldn't escape.
For a moment I felt uncomfortable for her but then I thought it was all in my head.
I think it was when she first came in, that she was standing up and she was looking around then at the door and was twirling her her. I just got the feeling she felt uncomfortable or was nervous but not sure why? Was it because I shut the door? I felt really bad so I think I showed her my reptiles briefly..then we went in the lounge or something.
I know that I used to stare at her and smile and she would do the same. She had a gorgeous smile ! Also, we only ever saw eachother twice! Second time was at her place where her bf said he had heard a lot about me. After that time (which went well imo because we went to a beach) she didn't want to see me anymore because she said she didn't feel a connection in our personalities.
Why did she act a bit weird in my room though? Did I cause her to feel anxious?
I keep wondering maybe this is why she didn't want to see me anymore

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  • fluffy1uv
    6 years ago

    She thought u had a crush on her, which it sounds like you do. She is probably bisexual and didn't want to be tempted to cheat on her bf by you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Dam was it that obvious?
      yeah I kinda only figured out I did when I would get butterflies every now and again when I saw her at work and how I was so disappointed when she wasn't there..
      I thought the butterflies were because of my job, it was a highly stressful job where I got a huge amount of anxiety

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      • fluffy1uv
        6 years ago

        She knows. Sorry that it got in the way of your friendship but it sounds like this is for the best. At least until you can get over your crush

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Are u sure she knows ?

          I'm quite good at hiding my feelings

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          • fluffy1uv
            6 years ago

            From your description of her reactions to you its pretty obvious that she knows.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              All I did was give her a few smiles that could easily be interpreted as friendly smiles so I don't see how she would know tbh

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    So you tell her that you need to close the door so the reptiles don't escape - implying that they do tend to scuttle around the place.

    Then you close the door and trap her in the room with the reptiles.

    I don't know - maybe she thought she might be into whatever animals you have. but once she saw them, they made her feel a little uncomfortable? Maybe she was picking up a lesbian vibe off you and she thought you'd have them in the living room or some other common space in the house, not your private space? Maybe it was the hardcore lesbian BDSM posters on the wall that made her nervous?

    People do strange, inexplicable shit all the time. You can easily go nuts trying to understand why people do what they do. (Look at psychologists - most of them are total froot-loops.)

    It's unfortunate that you felt you and she had something, while she didn't, but that sort of thing happens. Doesn't mean you're a bad person or that you necessarily did anything wrong. Entirely possible that she didn't know why being in your room made her uncomfortable.

    You say she was a little introverted. Maybe her people-skills are really crap.

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