Yes it's normal but that doesn't mean it's RIGHT. As a Chinese, I often get verbally and emotionally abused by my parents too.
- When I can't solve a question, they call me a pig, idiot or useless
- When I have problems and just need a listening ear (I'm not even asking for advice), they either say "don't tell me, it's none of my business" or ask "So what do you want me to do?"
- If we are going out and I dress up, my father will say "No one wants to look at you anyway. You think you're pretty?"
My parents favour my brother over me (you know how some traditional chinese parents favour their son)
These examples are just the tip of the iceberg. Just know that you're not the only one. I do all the housechores after school and my brother gets to spend all his time on his studies. I get whipped with leather belts and get thrown out of the house bleeding sometimes. It takes many years but you'll learn to be immune to it. I don't cry when such things happen anymore.
My advice is to talk to them as little as possible so they won't have the chance to find fault with you. The lesser you meet, the lesser the friction. Stay in your room when you're at home. Do not tell them any bad things that happens. It wouldn't help and just invites insults from them. They can't or rather, won't help you anyway. They just add on to your problems. Tell someone you trust. A teacher, boyfriend or friend. Or even IIN :)
IIN or is this verbal abuse?
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Yes it's normal but that doesn't mean it's RIGHT. As a Chinese, I often get verbally and emotionally abused by my parents too.
- When I can't solve a question, they call me a pig, idiot or useless
- When I have problems and just need a listening ear (I'm not even asking for advice), they either say "don't tell me, it's none of my business" or ask "So what do you want me to do?"
- If we are going out and I dress up, my father will say "No one wants to look at you anyway. You think you're pretty?"
My parents favour my brother over me (you know how some traditional chinese parents favour their son)
These examples are just the tip of the iceberg. Just know that you're not the only one. I do all the housechores after school and my brother gets to spend all his time on his studies. I get whipped with leather belts and get thrown out of the house bleeding sometimes. It takes many years but you'll learn to be immune to it. I don't cry when such things happen anymore.
My advice is to talk to them as little as possible so they won't have the chance to find fault with you. The lesser you meet, the lesser the friction. Stay in your room when you're at home. Do not tell them any bad things that happens. It wouldn't help and just invites insults from them. They can't or rather, won't help you anyway. They just add on to your problems. Tell someone you trust. A teacher, boyfriend or friend. Or even IIN :)