Is it normal not to want to have anything to do with my father anymore?

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I'm thinking ahead on this Fathers day and whether or not I want to talk to my dad then. I'm going to sound a little selfish, but I feel theres no point in me wishing a Happy Fathers Day to him this year. Few reasons why are, he kicked my sister and I out of his house and believed his wifes crazy stories about us (which were not true). Pretty much he put her before us, and even when we did no harm to her. Yeah youre probably thinking "blah blah blah a husband should put his wife before all else", I get that but my sister and I feel bad too especially since he was in our life almost the whole time until now. I'm wondering if it's normal for me to feel this way? I get that family is always going to be family, but in this case he doesnt seem to be there anymore for us. What's your take on this?

Also, sorry I kind of got off topic between fathers day and this subject. But its kind of two "IIN" questions.

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  • Zowie
    3 years ago | pl

    Please, if your father will talk patiently and privately with you have a RESPECTFUL talk with him. NOT with the Wife present. Infact, ask Dad to keep it confidential. New mom WILL defend her new territory. Including her only assures a total break down of communication between you and your dad. IF he's smart HE WILL solve this. It's his job. He's the father.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    what's the new wifes take on his treatment of you? what does she say to you about it all?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago | pl

      I really don't know honestly, but I'd assume she'd tell me one thing but mean something else. She's quite two-faced.

      I've been avoidant towards my father, and she'd tell him that we are doing that because we don't care for him. But its not at all like that. It's just hard to associate someone that rides you off.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago | pl

        well you are between a rock and a hard place unfortunatly. it is a shame when a new wife comes in and the kids are left behind (it does happen sometimes) there are 2 sides to every story but i take your word for it so my advice is smile and get on, fake it if you have to, don't rile the wife up make her believe you are happy. do the same to your dad you will win him back, maybe not now but later. if the new wife dosn't say nice things about you never trust her cause that is immature of her and selfish. just keep your feelings to yourself and bide your time, make plans for your future. good luck

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago | pl

          Thank you. Yeah it seems as so I have to play the game too and keep an open eye out for her :)

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