Is it normal normal she is selfless in bed?
She is my first gf. But I am her eigth. We have been going out for a few months now. I dont know if it's relevant but her first bf was physically abusive, maybe even sexually. She was into the whole drugs scene but quit once she got preggers
A few times when we got into the act and I was in the process of going down on her she sit up, so nervous, put her hands on my shoulders and said "I want *you*" implying P in the V. I obliged but thought why? Self conscious cause of hygiene? Cause you arent 100% shaved there? Cause you think I would suck at it? No pun intended.
I dont know what made me ask her if she ever had an orgasm, but she said no, not via sex but has achieved it twice by her hand. I noticed she cringed, had her hand on eyes while confessing this. Like she was embarrassed. She also said orgasms werent a big deal to her, and are not as great as they are hyped up to be
I know I dont have the experience and therefore credibility to say this: but I get the feeling from her body language during sex that she's holding on, and not letting go? Like... not letting herself free. She also changes her undies after every "time" even if it is 4 times the same night. I thought that was interesting. She's self conscious as if she were ashamed getting on top. Which makes NO sense cause she is has a body so perfect I want to hit my head into the wall. Smallish boobies sure but I love them, have never been a fan of big oversized ones. She probably doesnt believe that.
I feel we are two people of the same personality. And that's clashing. I am a giver and helper, yet she is too. Like I will bring big water crates on my way fo her 3 storey apartment, so that she doesnt have to do the heavy lifting through all those stairs, and she says it wasnt necessary, almost embarrassed. Same with other stuff. Plus she often likes to go down on me and I let her, but a few times I have declined because I wanted *her* instead. Face to face. To connect with her, look her in the eyes.
Sorry for being too long!