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Is this normal? Shes refuses to use them. Insists that i use a male condom which i hate because its so unnatural. I know the female one is too but i can sort ofbpretend its not there and lub up my dick before mounting her.
Is it normal that you won't use the male condom when apparently she wants you to?
Its not normal that there is no give and take. No its not normal that i have to and she doesnt. Her using one half the time would be normal, wouldn't it?. But no way just me everytime doing something i hate but i guess noadays the man has no choice . Female privilege yet again!
Are you offering to buy them for her?
A very early rule I learned about Ladies and birth control decades ago: Real Ladies appreciate the man who is willing to pay for their birth control,
There is a substantial difference between the cost of a female condom and a male one.
Why don't you step up a show her you actually care about her?
Note that I aslo actually pay the cost of a 10 panel comprehensive STD test up front (for both of us at once so she can see my results too). I've never had a Lady object to that... In fact - they have been thrilled. Of course that means that you cannot jump into bed for more than cuddling for a bit... But, its the start of a good sign if you both are willing to wait to be sure there is statistically almost no STD issue (no testing is perfect - but you can get to better than 95% on all STD test - with most tests better than 98% accurate).
You should have talked to her about things first... where female condoms only come up later in the conversation.
I just answered a post about how do you communicate better... you would be well to read my answer to that and follow that advice.
Then you might want to find a book on relationships as men and woman typically think and approach things much differently...
I wish you well with this,
Condoms are the worst. Id rather just not even have sex if I had to use one. Its nice to be married and not have to worry about that.
I sorry about your frustration. Maybe you already knew this, but one reason why some people could prefer the male condom over the female condom is because the male condom is more effective at preventing pregnancy.
The male condom is about 85% effective at preventing pregnancy with typical use and 98% effective with perfect use.
The female condom is about 79% effective at preventing pregnancy with typical use and 95% effective with perfect use.