Is it normal my mum calls me greedy?

So I've been saving up for about six months now for something I've really wanted, it takes me a long time just to save up a bit of money though as I cannot work due to some disabilities and rely on the government, although half of the money I receive goes to my mum to pay for food/rent/electricity/etc. and after buying my medicine, food for my pets I'm not really left with much money.

So I had saved up a couple hundred dollars and was ready to buy the thing I wanted, however my mum takes my card without my permission and goes and spends half of the money I was saving. I get angry because she didn't even ask me before doing it, and a week later she spends the rest of it without asking me again. She said she will pay me back eventually, but I'm pretty sad because I was really looking forward to buying that thing I wanted.

I decide to go and talk to her about it and that I told her I don't want her stealing my money and taking it without asking me first, she gets really defensive and then starts calling me greedy and selfish for saving up a few hundred for myself and not spending it on her. My sister then starts calling me that too cause she was there and overheard the conversation.

So am I greedy and selfish for saving up my own money to buy something for myself? Also for the people who might say to just move out, I cannot afford to move out right now until next year as that's when I will get enough money to live by myself, right now I only get very little and I could never afford to live by myself unless I become homeless. I will definitely be moving away from my mum next year

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  • 309uf2o38yf

    You could always take her card in return and buy the thing you wanted.

    My cousin did something similar and I disputed it with the bank and got my money back. My cousin now has a warrant for fraud.

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    • I've thought about doing that, but right now if I did she'd probably just kick me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go at the moment, so I'm waiting until my payment increases so I can finally have enough to leave home

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      • 309uf2o38yf

        Find a room for rent. I rented a room from a lady who had two other renters who were both on disability. You can find a cheap room in your area and go out on your own.

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  • RoseIsabella

    You don't sound selfish to me at all, but your mother and sister sure as Hell sound very selfish, and greedy! Suddenly my problems with my own family seem very small to me. I think your mom is quite the greedy opportunist. It might sound corny to some people, but I'm praying for you right now, and your situation. I hope you you can get away from them soon! I wish you all the best!

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  • sissycakes

    basically this post makes me upset that she did that to you. it is so unfair and just not right to steal someones money and then act like they are horrible just because the person did not want their money stolen

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  • BlindSpot

    My mom is so sweet, I have to force her to take my money. I'd love it if she did something like that, she's always busy worrying about others meanwhile she needs care the most. I totes get your issues though, you have your own issues and you have been helping your mom out already. This was the one thing you wanted. You must be feeling so disappointed now. I hope you can talk it out with your mom about what happened and why she did what she did in a calm manner and maybe try to explain to her how much that meant you, maybe set some boundaries. I also have family issues and while I tried running away, I just ended up alone.

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  • Nednerb43

    What is "the thing"?

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  • Dictator_endme

    I think you're mom feels entitled to everything you have just because she raised you, which is pretty common, but it's not right.

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  • kelili

    I'm sure it's not that bad. Just a little disagreement between parents and children. But yes, she should have asked you first.

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