I don't know what to tell you. He sounds like a lecherous, old bastard to me! Sorry, but I gotta be real. I bet he didn't hold up as well looks wise as you have. I could be wrong, but he sounds like a jerk and a voyeur. Does he look at a lot of pornography, because that bullshit is bad for the mind. You sound really attractive and like your in good shape.
I'm older myself (44), could stand to lose some weight and get in better shape and I certainly wouldn't put up with that bullshit. Of course I'm single and it sounds like ya'll have been married a long time so I assume ya'll have a long shared history and built a full life together.
If he's looking at pornography or going to strip bars he's probably addicted and needs to stop now. The media today is very youth obsessed and it presents an unrealistic view of the physical beauty of both men and women. The truth as you probably already know is that people don't stay young forever; hair turns gray or white and falls out, body's become saggy and skin gets wrinkled. From the way you've described yourself and the types of young women he gawks at it seems he's more obsessed with the concept of youth and the fleeting type of beauty that goes along with it than whether or not someone is in shape. I'm not gonna waste your time attempting to to make comparisons. Regardless of how you look I think your husband is behaving in a very immature, selfish, disrespectful and shallow manner!
I'd be willing to surmise that your husband is afraid of growing old as well as insecure about his own body and how the aging process I'd affecting it. Additionally, he may be trying to feel and look young by association when he flirts with young women. In all honesty when I was a young coed I hated it when older men flirted with me and or hit on me especially if they were married. I've always thought and still do to a large degree that it's creepy and pathetic.
There's no excuse for his behavior especially the gawking and flirting. Maybe a few sessions with a marriage and family therapist could be of some help? I wish you all the best in dealing with this issue.
IIN my husband can't look at me naked?
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I don't know what to tell you. He sounds like a lecherous, old bastard to me! Sorry, but I gotta be real. I bet he didn't hold up as well looks wise as you have. I could be wrong, but he sounds like a jerk and a voyeur. Does he look at a lot of pornography, because that bullshit is bad for the mind. You sound really attractive and like your in good shape.
I'm older myself (44), could stand to lose some weight and get in better shape and I certainly wouldn't put up with that bullshit. Of course I'm single and it sounds like ya'll have been married a long time so I assume ya'll have a long shared history and built a full life together.
If he's looking at pornography or going to strip bars he's probably addicted and needs to stop now. The media today is very youth obsessed and it presents an unrealistic view of the physical beauty of both men and women. The truth as you probably already know is that people don't stay young forever; hair turns gray or white and falls out, body's become saggy and skin gets wrinkled. From the way you've described yourself and the types of young women he gawks at it seems he's more obsessed with the concept of youth and the fleeting type of beauty that goes along with it than whether or not someone is in shape. I'm not gonna waste your time attempting to to make comparisons. Regardless of how you look I think your husband is behaving in a very immature, selfish, disrespectful and shallow manner!
I'd be willing to surmise that your husband is afraid of growing old as well as insecure about his own body and how the aging process I'd affecting it. Additionally, he may be trying to feel and look young by association when he flirts with young women. In all honesty when I was a young coed I hated it when older men flirted with me and or hit on me especially if they were married. I've always thought and still do to a large degree that it's creepy and pathetic.
There's no excuse for his behavior especially the gawking and flirting. Maybe a few sessions with a marriage and family therapist could be of some help? I wish you all the best in dealing with this issue.