Is it normal my friend dumped me ?

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So my friend and I have had an off and on friendship for quite a while, known her for about 4 years. She did something that upset me alot so for the second time i ended it. The first time we didnt talk for 9 months but then i reconected and rekindled the relationship. When we first met up after not seeing eachother for couple years she told me how luky she is to have me bak in her life and how she loves me heaps and I told her the the same. We had a great long talk and I filled up as we hugged.
The 2nd time i cut contact for 5 months and ended it politely. I had an urge to txt her other day az i still care. Anyway to cut a long story short I expressed why i stoped talking to most people but she seemed pissed off that i stil talked to her mum and brother and I didnt keep talking to her. After some txts she told me that she runing outa time 4 people that only want to c her when it suits them and basicaly waz ending it. I told her wow more like the other way around such as u
coming all way up to go to ur nieces bday whom u dont even like ,shooting me down as last on ur list. (Since id go all the way to hers thats far away) I told her that she always contradicted herself and how I couldnt believe she said that as its not at all close to true yet u keep people in your life who lie, betray, backstab and cheat! She didnt deny anything. Why did she end it after everything we expresed such as our feelings ??? I absolutly love her but she was such a bitch at times…:( I dont want to loose her but I think i have and maybe its for good …then again mayb its for the best??

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago | pl

    1. Why keep talking to her mother and brother and ignore her?
    That´s a shitty thing to do.
    2. There's always going to be one person in the relationship who wants to put more effort to travelling and meeting the other.
    it's up to you to set boundaries and make sure that your friends respect them.

    It seems like the two of you wont ever get along. I have some people like that in my outer circles. I simply love them when they are not being dramatical whiny bitches about everything and everyone and I can only stand to talk to them now and then.
    Lately been thinking about just stopping to initiate contact with them at all due to both of them refusing to answer my texts at times.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      Well two reasons why i kept contact with her mum and bro . Firstly I felt obligated to cut contact with her due to my parents strongly disliking her so I felt guilty having her in my life but i still kept talking to some of her fam az its still conected to her and i could ask how shes still gdoing. Also I was infuriated with how she adamently claims that I mean so much and shes so luky to have me in her life blah blah blah etc… When she contradicts her words by doing things such as flicking me off as almost like the last person to c so I am baffled to why shed lie about her feelings towards me az obviously must be false. If she genuinly loved and missed me then id be someone who she would be definitly making me a priority as I do with her because I meant what I said.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        8 years ago | pl

        She also said that she cried when I left because i was going and prob not going to c her for some months. I dont understand why someone would bother to fake all that…how time wasting, what does she get out of it ?

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    • Wolfeye
      8 years ago | pl

      I think (s) aint has it spot on. The healthy friendship breakup I had involved us splitting our social circles apart; that is, our shared friends all decided to stay in contact with one person or the other. If you stay friends with someone in close contact with your ex-friend, you end up looking shitty.

      End it the friendship. No texts, nothing. If it isn't a clean break then they will still be an aggravating part of your life.

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      • (s)aint
        8 years ago | pl

        Agreed on some of it, not the part that you must reject other people as well though. Not if there's a clear reason to why you wont hang out with someone anymore.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago | pl

          ??

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