Is it normal my fiancée doesn't want to play with my genitals?

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This really annoys me she's all into caressing me, receiving oral(not giving) me mastubating her even with objects and vaginal and anal intercourse but playing with my boys or simply whacking me off even just a bit is a no no! This frustrates me so much so on the rare occasion that we have to use a condom I insists that she puts it on cause its the only way her hand will go near my piece. Hell, I even play with her anus for her while we yet again have vaginal intercourse after I've gone down on her. She doesn't really like me using my had down there on her unless I'm using my penis or mouth at the same time. IS IT NORMAL?

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jethro

4 years ago | pl

No it isn't. It's just going to get worse. I suggest that you end it now while it is still easy and go find a girlfriend that gives as well as receives. You both will be happier.

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- TerriAngel
  
  4 years ago
  
  Jethro nailed it.
  
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- sneakbj
  
  4 years ago
  
  Move on
  
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xxLucifer

4 years ago

Each person is different and will have things they will and won't do in bed. If it something that really bothers you then bring it up to her and tell her that it bothers you and try to work past it.

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McBean

4 years ago

This type of behavior cannot be changed. Break the engagement now or you'll be sorry.

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RoseIsabella

4 years ago

Why are you engaged to marry someone who receives from, but doesn't give to you?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Tbh, I'm asking this question too late. We got married and are now divorced. I don't know but I imagine this problem was a strong underlying cause for the arguments and other things that happened to cause the breakup.
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    Then why are you referring to her as your fianceé?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      She was . I did marry her. I didn't want to say wife because people would give different answers, I wanted to know if it was normal in a serious relationship. Bracause it was there since day 1 in a serious relationship. If I said gf I would have just got aswners like "leave her".
      I'm glad I posted in this way as it posting this way I have learned a lot from puting it on paper,as it were, and from the replies. Thanks to all.
      
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      - RoseIsabella
        
        4 years ago
        
        I'm glad that you're happy with the way you posted this, but I still can't help, but to wonder why you would marry such a person?
        
        Didn't you ever ask her what was up with the way she was about intimacy with you?
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        Looking back, because of writing and discussing here, I (I imagine many people have had similar expiernces, not specifically this one) I grew to believe I was a freak for expecting/wanting/enjoying manual stimulation. I never remarked about the total lack of oral.
        The reason I believe she was against the manual part is because of her culture. I believe I was probably the first to even care about foreplay , relieving atleast.
        
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Ellenna

4 years ago

Have you asked her why she avoids this? If not, gently and respectfully do so and NOT in a sexual context and then LISTEN to her. There's a fair chance there's some trauma in her past that's causing this, so don't take it personally.

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CDmale4fem

4 years ago

And if she won't come around to doing what you are eequesting, well the sex can't be so good that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. There are many more women out in the world that love to suck dick.

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momwatcher69

4 years ago

I don't "get it"... you asked about your FIANCEE having an aversion, to playing with your cock and balls, but now, you've married, and divorced, her ?! . . . . WTF?

Anyway, since most humans spend 1/3 of our lives sleeping, (or in bed), why DID you tolerate her "puritan" ways, in the FIRST PLACE?

Compatibility is a HUGE thing, in ANY type of relationship. Being in-sync, whether religious, sexual (and kinks), political, child bearing/rearing, or simply deciding what color to paint the kitchen, or what to watch on TV.

Touching your partner's genitals is NOT a "taboo" .... it's a FACT of LIFE. . . . for MOST couples.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  THANKS FOR THAT. PLEASE SEE a new post of mine above .YOU WILL UNDERSTAND why I wrote as I did.
  
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  - momwatcher69
    
    4 years ago
    
    My advice would be the same, whether it's a g/f, fiancee, wife, or whatever.
    
    Not sure why you think it's necessary to MANIPULATE our advice, by posting a not-so-truthful question.
    
    I'm not going to speak for others, on here, but I feel like you are wasting MY time, because you aren't honest, about your situation. Semi-trolling ......
    
    You want honest answers/advice? Ask REAL questions. Nuff said?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      I WASN'T MANIPULATING your advice(that doesn't even make sense :)). I explained why I said fiancée. It shouldn't mater but it would have.
      Anyway I hope you have seen all my posts and know that I was writing about a past situation. I have never talked about it till now.
      If I had have said it was in the past everyone would have said things like lucky you left her or forget about it. this would not have helped me at all but the responses I have read helped me .
      
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      - momwatcher69
        
        4 years ago
        
        No worries. I'm not trying to "get in your face" about your post. I'm suggesting that you present CURRENT facts, as they ARE.
        
        For example, why didn't you just say that you "had" a fiancee, whom you married, and later divorced, because of this reluctance to play with your 'stuff', and ask us if THAT behavior, on her part, was "normal"?
        
        What I meant by manipulating advice, is that if you present 'false' scenarios, for advice, the advice you will receive, will be different, depending on current / past-tense situations, and whether they are on-going, and/or "fixable".
        
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Doesnormalmatter

4 years ago

Let her know that its bugging you. You guys may not be as compatible as you think. From there it's up to you as to whether or not something like this is a dealbreaker.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Letting her know ? I did. She would turn that around that I was the freak. I am only talking about the masterbation (.mutual or other) I never put any pressure at all in her regarding oral.
  
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  - Doesnormalmatter
    
    4 years ago
    
    I don't mean just tell her you want a hand job, tell her that her reluctance to do so is really concerning you in the relationship.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      Any mention would cause a row and then no sexy time at all.
      
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      - Doesnormalmatter
        
        4 years ago
        
        Than your relationship doesn't sound good at all.
        
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dimwitted

4 years ago

How did she get to be your finance with such a massive issue in the middle (pun intended)?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  She was great in other ways, I didn't think it was such a big deal
  
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  - RoseIsabella
    
    4 years ago
    
    It's a big deal, trust me... it's a big deal!
    
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Iszzy123

4 years ago

Look it’s just a pice. Of meat she has some kinda disposition about so talk to her about it and use positive reinforcement to train her to like it

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