I understand it must be very disorientating for you. Why don't you try to be the first to show respect, instead? You need to be in the lead, setting the behavioural example. She is not going to learn respect until you teach her how it's done. She may not show any in return at first, and may throw it back in your face - but love isn't a transaction. It'll take her a while to learn to trust. This means that you need to be the bigger person, the more patient person, he person who is content to suffer more for the other and possibly end up losing face. But you're the adult and she's the child, so you should take that burden instead of her - she'll learn as she gets older how to be the bigger person but she doesn't have he experience or the wisdom yet. Be patient as she learns, make yourself a 'safe place' for her so that she can come to you if she wants to. If anything you say or do to her, or the way you speak to her, would outrage you if it were done to you by someone else, don't do it.
She knows better than that. She has shown me respect in the past but has randomly decided not to anymore.
She used to show me her homework every time she came from school, told me everything she needed to do for the week and was polite about it. Now she just talks in grunts and nods.
When we are out with other people she acts pleasant but not when we're at home. She doesn't even want to go outside half the time, even though she would probably have fun.
It is not a matter of learning because I've already taught her how to be kind and respectful. It is a matter of her putting those lessons into use.
IIN my daughter is being terribly disrespectful and whiny?
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I understand it must be very disorientating for you. Why don't you try to be the first to show respect, instead? You need to be in the lead, setting the behavioural example. She is not going to learn respect until you teach her how it's done. She may not show any in return at first, and may throw it back in your face - but love isn't a transaction. It'll take her a while to learn to trust. This means that you need to be the bigger person, the more patient person, he person who is content to suffer more for the other and possibly end up losing face. But you're the adult and she's the child, so you should take that burden instead of her - she'll learn as she gets older how to be the bigger person but she doesn't have he experience or the wisdom yet. Be patient as she learns, make yourself a 'safe place' for her so that she can come to you if she wants to. If anything you say or do to her, or the way you speak to her, would outrage you if it were done to you by someone else, don't do it.
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She knows better than that. She has shown me respect in the past but has randomly decided not to anymore.
She used to show me her homework every time she came from school, told me everything she needed to do for the week and was polite about it. Now she just talks in grunts and nods.
When we are out with other people she acts pleasant but not when we're at home. She doesn't even want to go outside half the time, even though she would probably have fun.
It is not a matter of learning because I've already taught her how to be kind and respectful. It is a matter of her putting those lessons into use.