Is it normal my boyfriend thinks i am bad in bed?

This is quite common in sexual abuse survivors until they actually deal with it via professional therapy. I used to "go away" and not know I'd had orgasms: how weird is that? But I could act as if I was having a great time, which my body was, but my emotions couldn't deal with actually being fully there during sex.

PLEASE see someone for professional therapy ASAP: from my personal experience, the longer you put it off the harder it will be to deal with. And I know this will be hard, but you need to be honest with your partner about it: this will be easier if you've taken the first step of calling an anonymous crisis line for support and referral to an appropriate counsellor.

I wish you everything good: I know how hard this issue is to deal with but it is worth it - it won't go away by itself, I'm afraid

There are some really insensitive comments here. Firstly, I'm sorry to hear about what you went through. Secondly, sex is only one part of a relationship. Important as it is, there are more important things, such as communication. You say you haven't discussed this with your partner. I think you should, precisely because it's having such an impact.

I agree that you should consider therapy. Personally, I'm a bit wary about the 'cult of abuse' that exists in our current culture, with semi-skilled therapists doing more to aggravate and perpetuate the effects of the abuse (or even create trauma that wasn't there), so I would advise treading carefully and remaining critical. It's a profession full of charlatans. I would also be wary of any approach that seeks to tackle your 'performance anxiety' first and foremost, as this would seem merely palliative. You need to get to the heart of the matter with competent help and your partner's support.

Lastly, I would say this: much as you want to please your partner, sex isn't just about pleasing people. It's an expression of mutual desire or affection, or even love. And expression isn't about playing roles, unless those roles are a genuine extension of your personality. If you don't feel comfortable with something, you don't have to do it. Not every man wants a porn star in the bedroom, by the way.

Get drunk beforehand to loosen up. Sure, you might turn into an alcoholic, but there is also a chance that you will turn into the cookie monster

I only read the start of these replies obviously written by inexperienced people, please don't take them seriously and maybe look elsewhere for help. This site is full of morons.

I think its important to communicate with your boyfriend about everything you've said here.
It will feel good to him to hear he is not the cause of you not getting aroused, because he is already aware. It isn't something anyone can hide convincingly. As for practical sex tips, I know he is a comedian but I think patrice oneal put it best, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H4S2tgih3Zs

and then of course he is probably the one to communicate with, but I would tell him what you like as well, so he doesn't feel like you are just asking to be nice

No guy wants to have sex with a plank. Maybe you're broken and irredeemable and hopeless, but on the chance you aren't: the key part of interacting is 'acting'.

Do some research, put in the effort and start acting like you're great in bed. And eventually, you will be.

The Bible states clearly that you must submit to your husband. You must do as he says and satisfy his needs.

2 things first for the teasing second the intimacy issue.

For teasing, seriously imitate porn, watch, learn, imitate.

For intimacy, get either naked or in some lingerie, then lay down in your boyfriends arms and cuddle. If this escalates to sex the first time, then good, if not then that's fine too.
While cuddling there are several things to do but Above All, MAINTAIN CONSTANT EYE CONTACT. The power of eye contact can never be underestimated. While cuddleing rub your hands all over each other, embrace each other, and maintain eye contact. This will make you feel much more comfortable.
If you are comfortable at this point, you can begin escalating, have your boyfriend play with your nipples and rub your pussy, show him your interest by actually grabbing his hands and move them into position.
Then tease him, rub your leg across his groin, kiss his neck.
If your comfortable going further, have him finger you till you orgasm, make sure you maintain eye contact when you orgasm, this should make you feel more connected to him, and aroused.
At this point if you're ready have sex, again maintain eye contact, you can try more creative positions once you have more intimacy.

I hope this helps.