Nobody can fix another person. People can sometimes change their own behavior, but that too is rare and only happens when the person realizes they have the problem.
He defiantly wont have that epithany if you stay with him, because you are showing him he will not have consequences for his negative behavior. In fact by not standing up for yourself, you are telling him it is ok to act worse.
What bothers me most about this post is that you have 2 kids with him. Personally I think cps should take them because your boyfriend is abusive and you are apparently too weak to do anything about it. He knows this too obviously. Everytime you fail to stand up to a bully, you are proving to them it is ok to act worse. People never hurt who they love, but many people are incapable of love, although they can easily pretend they can.
IIN my boyfriend beat me because he thinks I'm cheating on him?
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Nobody can fix another person. People can sometimes change their own behavior, but that too is rare and only happens when the person realizes they have the problem.
He defiantly wont have that epithany if you stay with him, because you are showing him he will not have consequences for his negative behavior. In fact by not standing up for yourself, you are telling him it is ok to act worse.
What bothers me most about this post is that you have 2 kids with him. Personally I think cps should take them because your boyfriend is abusive and you are apparently too weak to do anything about it. He knows this too obviously. Everytime you fail to stand up to a bully, you are proving to them it is ok to act worse. People never hurt who they love, but many people are incapable of love, although they can easily pretend they can.