That is abusive. I will never understand how someone can love someone who hurts them.
Personally I would take a hammer to his face while he sleeps. Anyway I recommend leaving. Whether you kill him or call the police is up to you, but read up on abusive relationships. Most abusers act nice most the time and don't become abusive until the relationship has evolved. That's how they trap you.
It's not that simple. Just because he's abusive doesn't mean he's a bad unlovable person. Of course there's something wrong with him but it's not like it can't be fixed. We've been through a lot and I think we could maybe talk this through and solve this as well.
Nobody can fix another person. People can sometimes change their own behavior, but that too is rare and only happens when the person realizes they have the problem.
He defiantly wont have that epithany if you stay with him, because you are showing him he will not have consequences for his negative behavior. In fact by not standing up for yourself, you are telling him it is ok to act worse.
What bothers me most about this post is that you have 2 kids with him. Personally I think cps should take them because your boyfriend is abusive and you are apparently too weak to do anything about it. He knows this too obviously. Everytime you fail to stand up to a bully, you are proving to them it is ok to act worse. People never hurt who they love, but many people are incapable of love, although they can easily pretend they can.
I know what she's talking about. When you fall in love with someone it's really difficult to see them in the wrong before it's too late, even if it's totally obvious to everyone else. Eventually (if you break out of it) you can step back and look at all the bullshit you put up with, and see what everyone else was talking about.
I dont understand it. I would never be able to love someone who hurt me or caused me problems. To me it seems like that is not love. I dont know what it is but its not good.
You're entirely right. It's not good... I don't know how to explain it. It just sort of happens and you feel trapped. You feel like you can't get rid of them, you have to make it work. I don't know... Like I said you can't understand how badly they were really treating you until you get out of it.
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That is abusive. I will never understand how someone can love someone who hurts them.
Personally I would take a hammer to his face while he sleeps. Anyway I recommend leaving. Whether you kill him or call the police is up to you, but read up on abusive relationships. Most abusers act nice most the time and don't become abusive until the relationship has evolved. That's how they trap you.
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It's not that simple. Just because he's abusive doesn't mean he's a bad unlovable person. Of course there's something wrong with him but it's not like it can't be fixed. We've been through a lot and I think we could maybe talk this through and solve this as well.
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Nobody can fix another person. People can sometimes change their own behavior, but that too is rare and only happens when the person realizes they have the problem.
He defiantly wont have that epithany if you stay with him, because you are showing him he will not have consequences for his negative behavior. In fact by not standing up for yourself, you are telling him it is ok to act worse.
What bothers me most about this post is that you have 2 kids with him. Personally I think cps should take them because your boyfriend is abusive and you are apparently too weak to do anything about it. He knows this too obviously. Everytime you fail to stand up to a bully, you are proving to them it is ok to act worse. People never hurt who they love, but many people are incapable of love, although they can easily pretend they can.
I know what she's talking about. When you fall in love with someone it's really difficult to see them in the wrong before it's too late, even if it's totally obvious to everyone else. Eventually (if you break out of it) you can step back and look at all the bullshit you put up with, and see what everyone else was talking about.
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I dont understand it. I would never be able to love someone who hurt me or caused me problems. To me it seems like that is not love. I dont know what it is but its not good.
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You're entirely right. It's not good... I don't know how to explain it. It just sort of happens and you feel trapped. You feel like you can't get rid of them, you have to make it work. I don't know... Like I said you can't understand how badly they were really treating you until you get out of it.
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Hey. Youre in Florida. Im near Ft.Lauderdale for the week. About to go to Brus Room for some beers. If you show up Ill buy you a beer.
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Lol. Thanks, but I'm underage, and don't like beer, and don't meet strangers on the internet I've just met \(^-^)/
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Ok