Is it normal my bf discovered he's gay while we're dating?

my bf and i, both 20, have been dating for over a year and are happy. but a few months into us dating he discovered he was bisexual. at the time i didn't think much of it and didnt have a problem. lately he's been more and more interested in men and wanting to experiment with them- should i let him? he says he loves me but he is more attracted to men than women... i'm just a bit confused and worried.

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  • StrangeHuman

    It's happened to me too so no worries. Break up with him to be honest he's probably going to cheat on you, unless you're into an open relationship.

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  • Pumpurrnickel

    Dump him then. Clearly he's not satisfied enough with you. Him asking to be with men is your cue to find someone else.

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  • Dustyair

    Leviticus 20:13 King James Version (KJV)

    13 If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

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    • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

      dont be mixin yalls thread materials or eatin no shrimp or im liable to show up a flingin rocks

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    • buddyroowho

      Sure, some guy wrote that and they stuck it in a book, if that was so there wouldn't be so many gay people now would there, sheesh.

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    • JellyBeanBandit

      Leviticus was a sad, angry, pathetic creature.

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      • Dustyair

        Well how bout these folks, do you know them too?

        1 CORINTHIANS 6:9-10
        Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

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    • curious-bunny

      We all die at some point man, might as well go out having fun

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    • nikkiclaire

      How bout a bit of context there genius.

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      • Dustyair

        I did not write that, and do not know who did.

        My context, simply lies within here :)

        https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJMwBwFj5nQ

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  • Biman458

    That happened to me but in reverse. My ex-wife told me 8 years into our marriage she was bisexual. I was ok with that. We split a few months later because she cane fully out of the closet as being gay. She is now married to a female. I myself since our divorce have also come to terms that I am bisexual. I however will only be romantically involved with women. With men it's just sex.

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  • NobodysNormal

    What if you had a 3-way relationship with him and another bi guy? It's not for everyone but if you guys are into it it might be worth exploring

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  • Handyman

    Drop him, he needs a gay life.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Just break up with him, and go your separate ways.

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  • dilater

    sounds to me like he gay no such thing as bi wants girlfreind to cover tracks dump him

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  • Checkmate_King

    He discovered he was gay? Or did you walk in on him sucking the Big Red One? This whole scenario smells of troll here.

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  • Ellenna

    It's not whether you "let him" or not, its how you feel about the probability of him being sexually involved with another man while still with you.

    Some people could cope with that and others couldn't, so you need to decide which category you fall into and either stay with him or end it.

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  • buddyroowho

    Let him go, you're young and have your entire life ahead of you. I'm sure you'll find someone that is totally into you, and you are into him. Just chalk it up to one of those things. He was gay before he met you, and will continue to be. It isn't your fault, and don't think he will change or you can change him.

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  • edwininthematrix

    tell him that you are going to be just friends and find a real man who can love, appreciate, and take care of you.

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  • CDmale4fem

    Yea, what Mehhh said.

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  • _Mehhhh_

    It's weird to me that he'd suddenly come to that realisation at 20. Not saying it can't happen, but it's unusual. Typically as LGBT people (I hear this a lot, and it was true for me) we sense that something is "different" about us from a VERY young age, even if we're too young to understand what it is because it's dormant pre-puberty.

    I think he's probably gay and has been in denial about it for a very long time. He's tried to make it work with you just to see if he can do it, but he's now learning he can't just decide not to be gay. If I were you, I'd end it with him and encourage him to go explore while he's single and not tied down. It's not fair on you to waste your life with a guy who doesn't really care for you. Especially right now, these are your best years when you can also experiment, and use this time to attract the best men you can find as potential life partners. You deserve more.

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    • Emokate

      Maybe he just didn't face his feelings of feeling different. I feel different but I don't consider myself gay.

      20 seems normal especially if he hasn't had much experience.

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    • NobodysNormal

      I'm bi but straight-leaning, and I thought I was just straight until less than a year ago (I'm 22). I can remember times I was attracted to other guys as a kid, but I didn't think much of them when they happened

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    • curious-bunny

      Yea for sure, we know we're different and something's wrong but we just can't place it at such a young age, it sucks.

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    • Ellenna

      That's not weird at all and I don't believe unusual either

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