Is it normal if i like to leave guys hanging even when were going great?

Normally I call the people like you assholes, but on this forum I rather just vote NO.

if the tables turned and you liked someone and they gave you the brush off, how would you react? would you continue on your merry way or would you be more needy for his affection? that is interesting, personally i hate the emotional ups and downs and mind games

Hahah welp, I like what almostunreadable and dappled mentioned. One, yeah I do like having power over the guys and two, I dont want to get hurt? Im sure people in their right minds don't either.

So guess what? Girls can have power over guys too. Almostunreadable, you sound like it is a bad thing for girls to have power over the dudes. Not in my world. No guy has ever went as far as they wish with me because I have control. They can too or think they do as much as they want but Im not as vulnerable as they assume from all girls. Scrue that.

Also, I have watched many people lose themselves over stupid things with boys or girls and don't want to see myself and never have btw, in their shoes. Yeah Im scared to get hurt but Im strong enough to prevent that from happening to me. Sometimes getting hurt can help you grow, but i rather get hurt over something worth it so the outcome of growing from it makes an actual bug impact in my life, not some small one that didn't last through your next relationship.

Who_fan4life, Ive been called a tease, yupp. Whats wrong with that!?! Unless the guys are looking for a wife, why are they so sensitive about that subject? Its not like you or other guys aren't, oh no wait they are called "playas" and get credit for it while girls get downgraded. Same sh*t. The girl was probably just having fun like you guys were planning to with her anyways. I give her props plus she was supposedly attractive and didnt give herself away just cause she knows a lot of guys are interested. Instead of b*tching, you should like her even more that she sets boundaries for herself and doesnt go just ANYWHERE with a guy.

Hmm funny..because there was a very attractive girl that came and worked in the store I do. At the time, we were running out, let's say, of good looking females. I can guarantee you that every young guy in the place I worked, flirted with her and talked with her BECAUSE she was THAT much of a flirt. Even the guys that you thought would never even have a chance talking to go a girl like that, were talking to her with ease. I was one of them. Then I noticed her talking to every guy in the store.

I got pretty mad because I knew what was going on. Thank God I gave the notion of trying to develop the friendship into something because after time kept passing, I found out more and more that she was just a major tease and doesn't go ANYWHERE with a guy.

That's all she was, was just a tease. I don't know if she just wanted the attention or the feeling of power she had over guys, but it was bullshit.

Like the one poster said, what if YOU were the one that was brushed aside, just like that!?

Think about that next time, and grow up!

I voted 'No', but such things are getting more and more common so maybe I should have voted 'Yes'.

Tell us more about it. Do you like the power you have over guys? Or maybe you like other girls to envy you? Or maybe something else?

Generic reply would be that you are just immature, but I know that doesn't help anyone.

Fear comes in many forms and sometimes the people who look the most in control are the most scared. Heartbreakers may look to be the ones with all the power in relationships. But generally, they're the ones afraid that things are going too well or the other person is getting too close.

I don't know you and I'm not suggesting this is you. I'm just suggesting it might.

Uhh maybe she didnt want to talk about it and i wont say because you didnt try to talk to her cause in the end, you probably have no game. Maybe consider that as a reason.

Yeah I am serious by "throwing herself" on you since thats what most guys think of pretty girls.

In the end, go find another one whos more vulnerable and easy than she was who will let anybody take her out, talk to her and shit because obviously you don't like to give a little control to others. I understand your a guy so youre suppose to be masculine and in control which is bullshit because you can be whatever you want to be so just cause a girl who you expect to be nice, vulnerable, easy and stuff isn't all of that doesn't mean shes a bad person.

Exactly I mentioned "unless they are looking for a wife". Now, if you tried to talk to her and let her know you want more out of it like emotionally not just physically, you'd probably get different results. Yeah I know you said you did however, keep in mind that today anybody will do just anything to get in someone's pants and guys especially have the capability to pull off "emotional" feelings and in the end show their ugly true colors. Maybe she has a background with a similar situation I just described about guys showing their true colors in the end (not all guys, but the majority which is why the ones who actually want something like you claim to, get unlucky. Blame your brothers).

You probably think that is her purpose to get attention and feel good about herself but thats only because youre bummed she is not interested so in other words, you're just hating and over analyzing making up all this nonsense about getting people to talk to her. Wth.

So like I said, I give her props because she is not letting the guy take control, she is taking charge of her own life. Also, because she is attractive, she is putting that away for something worth it not just using it and throwing herself on to anyone.

you just sound like a typical female to me LOL

I thought I was the only one. But I do EXACTLY the same thing to girls. Its wierd though, but I just can't stop. Its as if I don't want to have anything 'long lasting' or meaningful.

Pajamas!