Is it normal if i just have negative thoughts unintentionally?

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UGhhhhh I hate my head!! I think of the most pathetic and negative thoughts....Im starting to fucken get irritated. Like its not even me whos thinking it its like someone else putting these thoughts into my head! You know they say dont believe everything you think and yeah I agree cause if you really live by all your thoughts, you're gonna get fucked over cause most of those things arent really existing, its just in your head! So I swear, I come up with the most outrageous thoughts like a sociopath almost. But a little less sociopath, Ive been comparing myself to my ex a lot in terms of me and my bf now nd I hate it! The way I looked at my ex I fear my bf looks at me. Like stop thinking this. Also, I keep thinking of my bf and sister liking each other because of some things they have in common but I'm just like okay can you please fucken stop thinking this? It messes with the way you proceed through your day and I'm tired of it. I need to go through like a head cleanse or something cause these thoughts now are getting out of my control. One thing that doesnt help though is I can be a jinx as in some things I think do really happen and I was right all along. So sometimes Ill stop believing my thoughts and then boom its actually true and of course I feel like shit for not sticking with my thoughts. Idk what to do...I wish I can seriously get rid my brain and get a new one with fresh thoughts, none of this bs.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago | pl

    Its called intrusive thoughts. I am pretty sure everyone gets these at times, but Having them all the time can be annoying. The best solution for me has been to not care what I think.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      I mean I try to too but its easier said than done.
      My head literally takes over me! I think I have to slowly train myself to forget these thoughts but its hard to when they're right in your head.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago | pl

        It can take time to learn to deal with intrusive thoughts.
        For example I have had thoughts that randomly pop into my head of driving into oncoming traffic, or pushing a kid down the stairs. Its not something I actually want to do, but the thoughts will randomly happen.
        Ive dealt with this by realizing everyone has unwanted thoughts and its ok to think these things. Its not really a big deal other than they are annoying.
        Upon not caring if I have unwanted thoughts, they seem to occur less often.

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        • OliveTree
          6 years ago | pl

          I mean it's a huge relief when you realize you're not actually evil.

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        • OliveTree
          6 years ago | pl

          Thank you.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago | pl

          Sigh...well that helps to know others have this too and its kind of normal ish. I have thoughts like that too like running over someone and not caring or having sex with someone I shouldnt even be thinking about having sex with. It is so annoying and Im just gonna take your word for it and hopefully what I think won't happen and everything will be fine especially in the cases I mentioned on my regular post.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago | pl

    Just remember, the more you try to control these thoughts the harder they rush in. It's called ironic processing. Let them flow, and don't stifle them. I used to have intrusive thoughts years ago, this is how I got over them. I still get them occasionally, but I just let them be like letting a little kid play with toys.

    If that doesn't help, sometimes venting those thoughts to someone you're close to helps. Hopefully you have such a person. Most often it takes a person saying things out loud for for them to realize how silly those thoughts are, or find the solution to something.

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  • derpyderp
    8 years ago | pl

    Yep. Cunt of a thing : (

    A lot easier said than done but you need to be at peace with the knowledge that your bf is with you, not your sister & that you guys are together for a reason.

    If things aren't right & he does think of you how you thought of your ex then so be it. No manner of thinking will change that so just be positive & enjoy your relationship instead of overthinking it

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      Yeah I just have this thing where I don't like to be fooled. And because of that, I like confronting people and when I confront my bf about something, he gets upset cause we're gonna start fighting and I don't want him to see me as this annoying gf who likes to fight. But I need a peace of mind so I confront him.

      But yeah like i said above, my head takes over me. If I try to acknowledge what is in front of me such as me and my bf together for a reason, my head just takes over with those thoughts and prevents me from enjoying the moment. I know it sounds so bad but I have no control over this. Im normally in a place where I know where I stand and with my bf, idk where I stand most of the time and these thoughts don't help.

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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago | pl

    That's nothin. I had a very disturbing thought today. It made me very say. It's one of my dogs birthdays today and I was just sitting at my house, drifting into la la land and I thought of taking my dogs for a ride and someone crashing into us and killing one of my preciouses :(

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  • volibear96
    8 years ago | pl

    listen- its "normal" but shouldnt happen all the time. when i get depressed it happens. But you cant let them run your life, itl be your ruin. If its persistent for a month and doesnt go away in 6 to 9 months please please talk to someone whether its a friend or counselor or psychotherapist- i went to a psychotherapist and it was really the best thing I could have ever done.

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago | pl

    I don't know what it is with some women. It's normal for ideas to pop in your head like that, but I don't understand how you convince yourself to believe these things. Can you not determine what is rational and what is not?

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  • Angelmikeal0
    8 years ago | pl

    live with it.

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago | pl

    I can relate to this also. I used to have it a lot but not so much now.

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