I don't know about the friend thing because hes been sending me stuff that are couple related and basically relating it to us. And he talks to me like we are still together. I.E. hey this is you and me as opposed to this WAS you and me.
Of course Im having trouble accepting the breakup but I'm actually doing a good job in terms of not chasing him. He has been contacting me first every single time we talk. However, I'm starting to get annoyed about this. I hate how he keeps talking to me like things are normal when they're not like sorry you can't get away with having me but not committing to me.
If I tell him about the backup thing, how do I do it without coming off as accusing him?
"Hey BlahBlah, we've been talking as if we're a couple, but we're not. It's really confusing and frustrating. I'm starting to feel like a back-up girlfriend."
Of course you don't need to call him Blahblah, and you don't have to say it word from word. Just use 'I feel', instead of "You do this,' or 'You make me feel like this,' and so on. No 'You', just a lot of ' I '. Then listen to his response closely without interrupting him, and decide whether he's full of shit or not. Good luck.
IIN if I dont mind being his backup plan?
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Have a serious talk with him about his reasons for ending the relationship, even tell him about the backup thing (don't accuse him of it though).
It really sounds like he simply likes you better as his friend, and you're having trouble accepting the break up.
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I don't know about the friend thing because hes been sending me stuff that are couple related and basically relating it to us. And he talks to me like we are still together. I.E. hey this is you and me as opposed to this WAS you and me.
Of course Im having trouble accepting the breakup but I'm actually doing a good job in terms of not chasing him. He has been contacting me first every single time we talk. However, I'm starting to get annoyed about this. I hate how he keeps talking to me like things are normal when they're not like sorry you can't get away with having me but not committing to me.
If I tell him about the backup thing, how do I do it without coming off as accusing him?
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"Hey BlahBlah, we've been talking as if we're a couple, but we're not. It's really confusing and frustrating. I'm starting to feel like a back-up girlfriend."
Of course you don't need to call him Blahblah, and you don't have to say it word from word. Just use 'I feel', instead of "You do this,' or 'You make me feel like this,' and so on. No 'You', just a lot of ' I '. Then listen to his response closely without interrupting him, and decide whether he's full of shit or not. Good luck.