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Maybe avoid sharing your male name if you do not legally have to share it. You are not that guy anymore, you are (your female name). Besides, for the same reason some calls us "Sir" knowing good and well that is no longer who we are, but they may use it against you.
I do not know where you live but where I am, 8 years ago I spent $300 to legally change my name. About $130 court cost, $130 to have it announced in a "local circulating newspaper" $20 for a new ID, and another $20 for other small costs like having my name change docs notarized, parking at the govt building...
In the mean time maybe you could get a name tag that says "Toni" since the name is synonymous but feminized version of your present name, even if Toni isn't exactly what you want but still an improvement.
It is indeed, im really pushing the issue with my boss. Was even able yo get him to cough up a 75cent raise. He's having a meeting soon with other managers about my name and I know them well enough tgere all for it. I told him I was looking at other places and he immediatly got serious and was like don't. We need you here don't want to loose you. (I'm good worker and were understaffed I'm not great but im good) so that's nice! But yea i dont tell anyone my male name. I fully love by Sarah, i would avsoloutly change by mane but i need to be a resident of Michigan for a year and back when I lived in North dakota I wasn't ready to fave a judge yet.
Oh yea those people are dicks! Screw them. Wonder how many are gonna be jerks to me cause we have our regulars and so far ive been purely a cashier. Can't wait to take over apparel get away from people
A couple things - Yeah i think being a resident of a state for one year is a requirement but also if someone has certain felonies, getting a name change might be more of a challenge. I doubt you have any but just something to consider IF you have had legal troubles.
About the boss not wanting you to leave - Attendance seems to be an ongoing problem in a lot of workplaces. If someone even shows up to work each shift, they are pretty much golden.
With the boss's resistance - I had a similar situation in beauty school. Was living full time but had not changed my legal name yet. I wanted a name tag with my new name. They would not do it. Their reason was - "then everyone would want a new name tag with a "nick name". I instantly got this image of 50 young women running around with the name tag saying "Baby Girl" (every single young woman in the early 2010's called themselves that)
Oh god no! My record is squeaky clean! I enjoy weapons that require licenses so i have no interest in doing something go fuck that up for myself. Seriously? I've never had tgat problem in any of my past jobs!
But yea i mean occasionally I'm late but its only ever a few minutes, professionalism is very important. Some people are a joke.
Jesus Christ thst sounds awful. I can understand that one a but though, not saying it makes it right. My manager (changing names for his and her privacy) linda gave me a new tag ladt night with my choosen name on. She was like hey Bill thos is getting rodiculos she constantly hides that name tag when dealing with guests it's time for a new one and he was like yea.. have you spoken to the others how they feel? She's lile they are all supportive or simply don't care. Him yea fine I suppose. (She told me about it. She even thought I would get offended, she's woefully uneducated it's adorable) but yea do that's all done! Twisted my bosses arm and got whst I deserved haha. He finally officially offered me to take over apparel. Unfortunatly for him in thinking about getting a second full time job wich would be a grand more than apparel would give. Still deciding though. 16 hour days..
If you take this other job, just of course try to find out ahead of time how they are towards transgender employees, what might go well and what challenges might arise.
I would still encourage you to work towards the legal name change soon. Once it is legal, people have no choice but to recognize.
I do not know how long it would take for sure but IIRC it was three months from the time i filed until my court date where it became legal.
IIN I wouldn't mind sucking a trans girl off
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Not of me to tell adults what to do but if I may -
Maybe avoid sharing your male name if you do not legally have to share it. You are not that guy anymore, you are (your female name). Besides, for the same reason some calls us "Sir" knowing good and well that is no longer who we are, but they may use it against you.
I do not know where you live but where I am, 8 years ago I spent $300 to legally change my name. About $130 court cost, $130 to have it announced in a "local circulating newspaper" $20 for a new ID, and another $20 for other small costs like having my name change docs notarized, parking at the govt building...
In the mean time maybe you could get a name tag that says "Toni" since the name is synonymous but feminized version of your present name, even if Toni isn't exactly what you want but still an improvement.
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It is indeed, im really pushing the issue with my boss. Was even able yo get him to cough up a 75cent raise. He's having a meeting soon with other managers about my name and I know them well enough tgere all for it. I told him I was looking at other places and he immediatly got serious and was like don't. We need you here don't want to loose you. (I'm good worker and were understaffed I'm not great but im good) so that's nice! But yea i dont tell anyone my male name. I fully love by Sarah, i would avsoloutly change by mane but i need to be a resident of Michigan for a year and back when I lived in North dakota I wasn't ready to fave a judge yet.
Oh yea those people are dicks! Screw them. Wonder how many are gonna be jerks to me cause we have our regulars and so far ive been purely a cashier. Can't wait to take over apparel get away from people
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A couple things - Yeah i think being a resident of a state for one year is a requirement but also if someone has certain felonies, getting a name change might be more of a challenge. I doubt you have any but just something to consider IF you have had legal troubles.
About the boss not wanting you to leave - Attendance seems to be an ongoing problem in a lot of workplaces. If someone even shows up to work each shift, they are pretty much golden.
With the boss's resistance - I had a similar situation in beauty school. Was living full time but had not changed my legal name yet. I wanted a name tag with my new name. They would not do it. Their reason was - "then everyone would want a new name tag with a "nick name". I instantly got this image of 50 young women running around with the name tag saying "Baby Girl" (every single young woman in the early 2010's called themselves that)
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Oh god no! My record is squeaky clean! I enjoy weapons that require licenses so i have no interest in doing something go fuck that up for myself. Seriously? I've never had tgat problem in any of my past jobs!
But yea i mean occasionally I'm late but its only ever a few minutes, professionalism is very important. Some people are a joke.
Jesus Christ thst sounds awful. I can understand that one a but though, not saying it makes it right. My manager (changing names for his and her privacy) linda gave me a new tag ladt night with my choosen name on. She was like hey Bill thos is getting rodiculos she constantly hides that name tag when dealing with guests it's time for a new one and he was like yea.. have you spoken to the others how they feel? She's lile they are all supportive or simply don't care. Him yea fine I suppose. (She told me about it. She even thought I would get offended, she's woefully uneducated it's adorable) but yea do that's all done! Twisted my bosses arm and got whst I deserved haha. He finally officially offered me to take over apparel. Unfortunatly for him in thinking about getting a second full time job wich would be a grand more than apparel would give. Still deciding though. 16 hour days..
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If you take this other job, just of course try to find out ahead of time how they are towards transgender employees, what might go well and what challenges might arise.
I would still encourage you to work towards the legal name change soon. Once it is legal, people have no choice but to recognize.
I do not know how long it would take for sure but IIRC it was three months from the time i filed until my court date where it became legal.