Is it normal i wonder who will remember my birthday

I deactivated my facebook account for the first time in my life because I dont want to have anything to do with fake people anymore. I cant get myself to delete them though as they are people I have considered friends and I cannot handle all the possible questions once they'd actually notice I had deleted them, and explaining to them the pain they have caused. Some people do not deserve explanations and more opportunities to fake apologies to ease their own minds and then keep acting the same way as before because they couldnt actually care less. That's normal because some people for some reason pretend to care because they collect social contacts like others collect pretty rocks, but that's not for me.

My birthday is coming up in a week. I wonder which ones will even remember it now that Facebook won't remind them. It probably should not matter as most of the time it's fake. People who never speak to you and never has all of a sudden gives a crap, you know. At least for how long the seconds of putting "happy birthday" on your timeline takes! For all I know they're only doing it to be done with "todays good deed" so they can feel a little better about themselves. Yeah social media is fake and it's taken me far too long to notice.
I understand why people like my ex loathed social media now. He didn't even want to have anything to do with his friends on social media, probably because he could see how fake they acted on there.
Yet it feels scarily impossible to 100% cut ties with it, but maybe in modern society it is.

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  • jethro

    You don't want to deal with fake people but you still come here. Go figure, huh.

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  • SwickDinging

    I have never put my real birthday on social media.

    Back when Facebook first came out, a lot of people my age had safety concerns around putting all of that information up on the internet. A lot of our concerns were total nonsense, to be honest, but I do still defend my concerns around putting your full name and date of birth up on a website where you are also likely to be publicly connected to your mother, who probably has put her maiden name in brackets next to her married name, in order for her old school friends to look her up. Those 3 pieces of information are enough for someone to get past a lot of security hurdles and pretend to be you.

    As such, there are only about 5 people who ever wish me a happy birthday, unless I happen to have a birthday party/meal out. It seems that most people have become used to social media keeping track of these things. You fall off the radar.

    Happy birthday in advance, OP. I hope you make your own day special and treat yourself well.

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  • Millie_the_evil_saint

    The real question is: Why do you expect casual friends (more accurately, acquaintances and strangers) to be so deeply involved in your private life?

    My birthday is something I celebrate with close friends and relatives, people who actually know me. Not internet randoms or that one cute guy I saw on the bus the other day... Why would they remember my birthday? They have their own life.

    Do you even remember the birthdays of all your fakebook friends? No? But you expect them to remember yours?

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  • Somenormie

    Hope your birthday goes well

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  • RoseIsabella

    Happy upcoming birthday, OP! It's okay to celebrate your own birthday just for the fun of it! It's good to nurture, and care for yourself.

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  • Grunewald

    Your birthday isn't the right time to do a thing like that. It's like cutting off yor nose to spite your face: you are going to cause yourself emotional pain just to prove a point to yourself, and the only person who could join you in the bitter satisfaction of having been right, is you. It'll feel lonely and you'll regret having inflicted it onto yourself.

    Let the birthday pass as usual. Deactivate Facebook afterwards, when there's less at stake. You don't need to hold your entire birthday hostage just to prove to yourself whether your friends will or won't remember it.

    And happy birthday, dude.

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    • I guess but now it's done. I didnt even have my birthday in mind while doing it but I realized it later.
      Thanks

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    I dont remember anyones birthdays even the people I love. Id forget my own fuckin birthday if my wife didnt remind me. She knows how I am and always hits me with the "heeeey my birthdays coming up..." and i put the alarm on my phone to get hwr something

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  • bigbudchonger

    Idk exactly when your birthday is, dude, but I wish you a happy one. Good job on gettting off fb. I did the same. It's a pretty toxic place once you look at debating people and the like.

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    • Thanks man

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