I certainly feel that way and that's why my wife doesn't work and takes care of our kid. It's America though so if others don't want to do that they shouldn't have to. But sometimes I get the feeling a lot of people would like to do that but they can not afford it. I do think America would be a better place in some ways though if it were like this. The divorce rate would be lower, less crime, less entitled crybabies.
No doubt she's working and being a mother is much harder than going to work everyday like me. I was trying to say that she's not working as in employment work.
This is my whole point and the reason I believe in the old fashion values. The family was a team and we all worked in one way or another paid or otherwise. I am a housewife and mother but I also work in paid employment 30 hours a week. My husband works about 45 hours most weeks. Overall with housework and paid work I’m sure I do far more hours than him but I accept that as part of being a woman. He has other pressures like being head of the family, looking after the finances dealing with household maintenance and the cars etc. He also has a better paid job than I do and has a lot more stress from it.
But I’m not exploited. I don’t see things that way. I’m proud of my children and the way I raise them. I’m also proud of my husband and his career, but I wouldn’t want to be him or live in his world. He is the head of our family and we are not perfect. We argue and fall out like any other family. We make up and apologise and move on. Sometimes we are tired and moody and sometimes we struggle to make things right and he steps in and shows his authority. In the end we all play our role and stick together because we are a loving family. If we all lived our segregated lives and thought only of ourselves we would not be the family we are and yet so many ‘modern families’ seem to live like that and half the time no one knows what anyone else is doing or what is going on in their lives. I wouldn’t want our family to be that way.
I agree, too bad you have to be employed. Idk if you pay for babysitting but maybe if you quit the losses wouldn't be that bad after you get rid of daycare expenses. You could even babysit another kid to make up the money you lose.
IIN I think we should bring back old fashion values
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I certainly feel that way and that's why my wife doesn't work and takes care of our kid. It's America though so if others don't want to do that they shouldn't have to. But sometimes I get the feeling a lot of people would like to do that but they can not afford it. I do think America would be a better place in some ways though if it were like this. The divorce rate would be lower, less crime, less entitled crybabies.
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Your wife IS working, it's just that she's not paid for it. To quote one of my favourite slogans from the 1970's:
EVERY MOTHER IS A WORKING MOTHER!
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No doubt she's working and being a mother is much harder than going to work everyday like me. I was trying to say that she's not working as in employment work.
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This is my whole point and the reason I believe in the old fashion values. The family was a team and we all worked in one way or another paid or otherwise. I am a housewife and mother but I also work in paid employment 30 hours a week. My husband works about 45 hours most weeks. Overall with housework and paid work I’m sure I do far more hours than him but I accept that as part of being a woman. He has other pressures like being head of the family, looking after the finances dealing with household maintenance and the cars etc. He also has a better paid job than I do and has a lot more stress from it.
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Well if you want to accept being exploited that's up to you, but women like you are a dying breed
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But I’m not exploited. I don’t see things that way. I’m proud of my children and the way I raise them. I’m also proud of my husband and his career, but I wouldn’t want to be him or live in his world. He is the head of our family and we are not perfect. We argue and fall out like any other family. We make up and apologise and move on. Sometimes we are tired and moody and sometimes we struggle to make things right and he steps in and shows his authority. In the end we all play our role and stick together because we are a loving family. If we all lived our segregated lives and thought only of ourselves we would not be the family we are and yet so many ‘modern families’ seem to live like that and half the time no one knows what anyone else is doing or what is going on in their lives. I wouldn’t want our family to be that way.
I agree, too bad you have to be employed. Idk if you pay for babysitting but maybe if you quit the losses wouldn't be that bad after you get rid of daycare expenses. You could even babysit another kid to make up the money you lose.
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I work when the children are at school. I don’t pay for child care except breakfast club for the younger 2.