Is it normal i think of torturing my friend’s abusive dad?

To make a long story short, I became friends with a girl a few years ago. She became a very good friend, but I learned she had suicidal feelings, and that she had even attempted it and ended up in hospitals numerous times. I learned that her dad is abusive, and that she describes him as “scary” and that he sometimes hurts her. I don’t know how far the abuse extends, but it’s made me angry enough to wish I could hurt him. I wouldn’t want to kill him, but make him hurt so hard that it would be traumatic for him, and he’d have such severe trauma it’d cause him to have flashbacks to my torturing of him and he’d be too scared to hurt her again. Since I like irony, and my friend cuts herself, I would think something like stabbing his arms with as much strength as I can, and threatening to do worse if he harms her again. Now after reading all this you may think I’m insane, but I only feel this way when I’m angry, and I don’t think I’d be brave enough to do something like this. But the point still stands that I really want him to understand the pain he caused. I think everyone who’s harmed another doesn’t necessarily deserve harm back, but at the very least should be confronted with the consequences of their actions, and to feel the same pain they caused others. I’m sorry for the long rant but this is something that’s been bothering me for a long time. I hope someone has something good to say.

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Based on 13 votes (10 yes)
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Comments ( 10 )
  • B_E_Z_sweetie

    Abusive people usually have already been abused, usually so severely that they can start to believe it is normal behavior..or "just how people are."
    I think abused people need first hand experience with others who have well developed problem solving skills. I think they also need to be shown some compassion so they know what it feels like. Unfortunately, controlled settings to accomplish this are difficult to put in place.

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  • Jimbo24

    There's the police and there's CPS. It's not your job to deliver this kind of justice, unless you want to be the one ending up behind bars, or in the hospital/cemetery if her dad is the vindictive kind. Also, keep in mind that all you have is a girl's allegations, and one side of the story.

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  • rayb12

    By that logic wouldn't it only be fair someone then hurts you after you do this to him?

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    • I’d accept. Then I guess that person would get hurt, then we’d have a never ending loop of people torturing each other!

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      • "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."

        Humans must have a more complex system of justice, and fortunately, we do in most places.

        "Variety is the spice of life."

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  • Seahawksfan56

    She wants you to get a job so you guys can marry and move out of there ;)

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  • Yes it normal. This reminds me that one of my favorite anime, a dude beats his female friend's abusive uncle to death with a baseball bat.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFaFfvy14Fc

    I laughed so hard, both in delight and because it's funny that the guy is losing his mind. Lol, I wonder if I'll get downvotes for this stupid irrelevant comment.

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    • Eh, it makes more sense than the other one.

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      • Seahawksfan56's comment was a reference to another recent post, if you didn't know.

        Some girl's dad is abusing her, and she's waiting for her boyfriend to save her.

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        • Oh. Well this is in reference to an online friend, and I’m not aware if she has any romantic interest in me.

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